You’ve often heard the word mastery thrown around, but what does it actually mean to achieve mastery?
Mastery certainly has to be understood as a choice to follow your passions. Someone will not achieve mastery in any subject or endeavor without a high degree of passion for the subject or path. I like the analogy of the path of mastery. That idea suggests a conscious choice to move in a certain direction.
In the recent 3-day Coach Certification Training wrap up, we spent a great deal of time on the subject of coaching mastery. What we reflected on is that there are five primary keys to mastery: instruction, practice, surrender, intentionality and the edge. These are from Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment by George Leonard.
The 5 Keys to Mastery
1. Instruction speaks to the importance of learning from someone who is a master. It makes sense, doesn’t it, that you would want to learn from the best? But how do you determine that? What kind of outcomes do they get? Who instructed them? How did they learn their skill or craft? Do they know what makes them a master?
This doesn’t mean that the only form of instruction is in person; however, it will be necessary at some point. Books and videos can help you develop interests and appreciation for something, but you will not achieve mastery that way.
Another point is that not everyone who is a master at a skill is also a good teacher. Teaching itself requires a specific skill set, along with humility.
2. Practice is best illustrated by an old joke: a couple is lost in New York looking for Carnegie Hall. They stop and ask a local elder, “How do you get to Carnegie Hall?” He answers, “Practice.”
According to George Leonard, practice is the path upon which you travel, just that. It becomes part of the way you live.
As I’ve said before, most masters have put in a minimum of 10,000 hours of practice. This, of course, is an uncomfortable premise in a culture that often advertises opportunities to gain expertise in a week, a month or three or four months. This is simply not possible.
It almost goes without saying that good practice leads to good games or outcomes. There’s an old martial arts saying that goes like this: “The master is the one who stays on the mat 5 minutes longer every day than anybody else.” This is what Michael Jordan was famous for.
3. Surrender means surrendering to your teacher and to the demands of your discipline. You have to be willing to be the fool. Any new learning will, by necessity, be less than stellar. It’s the ability to adopt the learner’s mind that makes the difference. Remember the NLP presupposition that there’s no failure, only feedback.
If you ever meet someone who’s a master at piano, ask them how many endless hours they spent learning scales. Cultures where mastery is appreciated have lots of stories about the importance of being willing to do lots of seemingly endless work before you can even enter the path of mastery.
4. Intentionality: In my work with the Peruvian mystic Don Américo Yabar, he talks about the importance of setting an intent. This is a clear and unambiguous decision to be on the path. When you commit in this way to something, then you are able to marshal the willpower and stamina to stick with it. This also implies that you can imagine the outcome—the reason for doing what you’re doing. That kind of focus and willingness organizes the mind and the musculature to do what is necessary.
Almost everyone knows the importance of visualizing in sports. Jack Nicklaus used to describe his approach to golf by saying that he “never hit a shot, not even in practice, without having a very sharp, in-focus picture of it in my head.” He is also quoted as saying that a good golf shot is “10% swing, 40% setup, and 50% visualization.” Other professional athletes say similar things. They call it the mental game. This is the part where your beliefs really play a significant role.
5. The Edge: What is “the edge”? It is your willingness to go beyond—to go where others have not yet gone, to be an explorer. It’s where you push yourself to do things that others have not yet done.
There are lots of stories that resonate with many us of about people who push themselves in ways that appear to be foolish. Perhaps they are, but to the person doing it, it’s an expression of their willingness to go further than others go.
So think about what you want. Are you willing to put this kind of effort into what you say you want to master?
What we discovered at the Certification wrap up is that this is not a path for the faint of heart. To really chose a path of mastery is a commitment. That’s why it helps to have companions on the path; otherwise it can be very lonely. It’s why I make entrance into my certification program difficult. I want people who are committed to the path.
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As an NLP Practitioner, I understand and appreciate how valuable NLP can be. If you are one of my clients or regular readers, you have heard some of my NLP recommendations and may have even experienced the benefits of NLP yourself. It is with this in mind that I encourage you to read the forwarded message below from Frank Bourke, Ph.D., Richard Gray, Ph.D., and the NLP Research and Recognition Project. They have announced a new website that has been built to give NLP an accurate, unbiased representation that may be further developed by the NLP community. The article below I think represents what can happen when there is a pre-existing belief that something either works or does not work.
I was actually discussing this Wiki issue with a class that I just completed with a group of coaches this past weekend. I myself have tried to insert changes into the Wiki article and was curious about the lack of curiosity regarding the ongoing response to the NLP article.
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Content from Message Sent by Frank Bourke, Richard Gray
and the NLP Research and Recognition Project
The NLP Research and Recognition Project (R and R) and a group of NLP volunteers, in association with Tim Hallbom, Shelle Rose Charvet and other NLP leaders, has taken note of the tremendous influence exercised by Wikipedia and its negative impact on NLP. Working together they have developed an alternate, scientifically sound Wiki site that the NLP Community’s support can bring into regular use.
We would like your help in the following ways:
First, if you have a website, please ask your IT person or web manager to eliminate any link to the Wikipedia article and replace it with a link to www.nlpwiki.org.
Second, we would ask that you spread the word to your clients, practitioners and associates that the new wiki exists and ask them to visit it, link to it, add to it and increase its Google statistics by visiting it often.
Third, if you are a writer or have relevant materials that would add to the Wiki, please send them on to our NLP editors using the submission guidelines on the front page of the Wiki.
Current biased editors have used the Wikipedia rules to maintain control of the NLP site, which labels the field as a fraudulent pseudo-science. Any attempts to submit positive NLP materials are immediately dismissed. In our own case the bad press and spurious research promulgated by Wikipedia has cost the R and R Project millions of dollars in lost research funding, and at least one opportunity to create an NLP Department in an internationally recognized American University.
In response to this, the R and R team and a group of NLP volunteers, under the guidance of Tim Hallbom, Shelle Rose Charvet and other NLP leaders have established an alternative NLP Wiki at www.nlpwiki.org. The Wiki formatted site provides an unbiased look at NLP that links to independent validation of NLP and parallel findings in mainline psychology. The site has no advertising, promotes no schools or individuals and, despite a stellar editing team, all of its articles are presented as anonymous contributions by the community.
On some level, NLP is at a crossroads. While good scientific studies validating NLP’s clinical claims do need to be done, a fair reading of existing research, contrary to the NLP skeptics’ presentation on the official Wikipedia site, warrants the time and money that the growing NLP research movement is now expending. The new NLP Wiki provides good information and makes it easily accessible. Help us to get it known and used.
Please use this address to RSVP your actions, especially how many NLP practitioners you have contacted: info@researchandrecognition.org. Also let us know if you have questions, need help or would like to be more involved.
Thanks for your help in this and being a part of the NLP community.
Copyright © 2013 NLP Research Recognition Project, All rights reserved.
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If so, don’t miss my Belief Breakthrough Method™ Coaches’ Intensive Program in Tucson, Arizona the weekend of April 26-27, 2014!
I work with coaches who want to achieve mastery, and it’s clear they recognize that my training provides a chance to move up to the next level. They understand that it will improve their skills and capabilities. This program is ideal for coaches desiring their own personal transformation work who want to learn how to systematically do this work with others. If you appreciate and thrive in a small-group format, there’s no better opportunity.
Now my program includes Coach Certification Training, and this 2-day Coaches’ Intensive is the doorway into that certification program. If you want to develop mastery in your coaching, and you want the individual attention that makes that happen, this is the program for you. The price goes up every month so don’t wait…
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
A recent article from Steve Andreas, one of my favorite NLP thinkers, offered some useful examples about the presupposition that people have all the resources they need, but they may not be applying them in the right context. The great hypnotherapist Milton Erickson described these resources as “what you know, but you don’t know that you know.”
For instance a manager might have wonderful people skills and treat his employees with care and respect, but he might end up struggling to treat his spouse well. When reminded of his abilities, he could be encouraged to treat his wife as though she were one of his valued employees.
Steve encourages those he trains to discover the areas where people are already successful and have them apply that skill set to the troubling context.
I have found that this often will work—sometimes in surprising ways—and it can be reinforced with suggestions like, “I never know how people can discover new ways to apply old skills. I’ll be curious to see what happens for you.” This presupposes that they will discover something, prompting them to take positive action using resources they already have.
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I’ve already finished my business plan for the year, and now I’m wrapping up a visioning board that corresponds to that. A visioning board helps people create a visual representation of what they want so they can “see” where they’re going. Mine allows me take a look at my lifestyle, business and travel goals and to really set my sights—literally—on what I want to stay focused on.
It’s important to keep your overall focus in mind when planning for the year, and a visioning board can be helpful for creating the clarity you need. My clients have mentioned how advantageous it is to be clear about what they want to accomplish. Establishing this clarity has made a significant difference in their lives.
When you begin the process of creating your board, don’t just focus on your business plan. Be sure that you have a complete vision—one that takes into account what you want for yourself above and beyond your business.
Creating Your Visioning Board
Once you’ve selected a piece of paper or poster board to serve as the backdrop for your vision, follow these steps:
- Start with the idea of the lifestyle you want. That should influence your board and your business. (Remember, you want your board to influence your business and not the other way around. If you’re not careful, it’s easy to let your business take over. If you’re not in charge of your business, it will be in charge of you. That’s what has happened when you hear someone say, “My business is killing me.” or “My business doesn’t give me any time.”)
- Next, choose your images. Sit down with a collection of magazines, cutting out what appeals to you. If you want a new house, a new car or a great vacation, include pictures of each. The pictures will remind you to create new opportunities in support of what they depict.
- While working on #2, watch for words and phrases that represent your goals and dreams, and cut those out as well. Some of the ones I’ve collected include “dream big,” “indulge in the extraordinary,” and “it’s time for the vacation of a lifetime.” (One nice thing about working for yourself is that it’s easier to schedule vacation time.)
- Look at family dreams as well and create a family vision. Beth and I are working on the visioning board together.
- Don’t forget to include items representing your spiritual, intellectual, physical and emotional development.
- Put your board in a high-traffic area so you can look at it often. Remember that you’re doing this exercise to create the kind of life that you want. Seeing these words and images will remind you on a regular basis of what you’re working for. It stimulates you and reinforces what you want, so it should reside in a prominent location.
- Revise as needed. Your visioning board should a dynamic piece that you add to over the course of the year.
- Now that you know what you want, create a specific action plan for how you’re going to achieve it.
Sample vision board image courtesy Wikipedia / Cjboertjens
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I am deeply grieved to report that we no longer have our Director of Marketing…
For the first time in 42 years I come home to a house empty of dogs. I guess you can safely say dogs have been an integral part of my life. They have been my companions and teachers and fellow beings for a long time.
I just lost my final companion Salka, an exuberant, passionate Alaskan Malamute. Those of you who have followed me and have been reading my newsletter or have trained with me are familiar with Salka.
He was the last of our pack of three. His pack mates, Waiki and Munai, were all named in Quechua words that have deep emotional meaning for Beth and I. Salka means wild energy—the wild energy of the Eagle as opposed to the domesticated energy of the chicken. In Andean cosmology “salka” energy is the wild energy of creativity and passion.
My big boy could not have been better named. He was my traveling companion, breakfast companion and my biggest cheerleader, sitting excitedly on the sidelines watching me play soccer. We once did a road trip through Northern California, hiking near Lake Tahoe and exploring the small mining towns of the foothills.
He had an amazing facility to connect with people. An animal communicator told us that what Salka enjoyed most was making deep eye contact with people—the kind of soul gazing that creates meaningful connection with all kinds, especially children and the vulnerable.
Because of the way he connected with people, I began speaking about him in my newsletter and created a special section—Salka’s Notes—as a way to impart messages from the perspective of a wise being. When I would travel and meet people at different conferences, we often talked about the use of newsletters to communicate our message. Almost everyone commented on how they enjoyed Salka’s Notes. As you can see from the photos, he illustrates the importance of living fully.
As I write this, I acknowledge the tears, the deep breathing and the sense of loss. His loss has made me miss his pack mates even more. Every time I lost one of my companions, I wrote about the lessons that they had taught me. I think one of the roles of dogs in our lives is to be teachers. I can’t tell you how often I would tell stories about my dogs that really imparted meaningful, heartfelt lessons.
Salka’s ultimate lesson for me was to learn to love myself as much as he loved me and to always be willing to connect fully and completely with people I meet. Those of you who know of his loss have reached out to me because you know the depth of my connection with him, especially those of you who have had a Salka in your life.
So this is as much a eulogy as it is a recommendation that you live the Salka life. Feel the creative passion, the heartfelt connections and always be ready to take a walk and enjoy nature.
Salka, I miss you.
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Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
As I mentioned in my newsletter, our upcoming trip to Peru represents the marriage of two things I love: training/intimate coaching and work with ancient traditions of healing. Though I had always thought it would be fun to combine the two, I didn’t see how that could happen. After witnessing a powerful response from those participating in the Coach Certification Training Kickoff, I finally recognized just how appealing this combination would be to some people.
One thing I’ve heard others talk about is how much people crave experiences. People talk about things that are meaningful to them. So how do you create the kinds of events that are meaningful? Some do it by wooing clients with private jets, limos, celebrity meetings and luxury accommodations. These activities create an experience, and participants talk about the experience as much as the learning.
When people talk about my Coach Certification Training Program, in addition to sharing what they’ve learned from me, they’ll also talk about the experience and what it was like to meet with the elders and the shaman.
When it comes to such group offerings, what we’re really doing is creating an experience that is meaningful to people—something that speaks to their heart and connects them to ancient things. With Peru that experience in the mountains is something they just can’t get anywhere else. I get to do something I love and share it with others, and when all is said and done, they’re getting a really great deal.
A number of people in my coaching program have already offered unique programs to their clients based upon this idea and are having remarkable results with them.
People want results AND experiences. What are your gifts that make you unique? What differentiates you from others? What do you say you love to do but have not yet packaged as an opportunity for clients?
If you want to create mastery-level coaching skills supplemented by working with ancient healing traditions, a combination that creates profound breakthroughs, and if this speaks to your heart or your gut, pick up the phone and call me at 520.237.4435 to see if this once-in-a-lifetime experience is for you.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
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Belief Breakthrough Method™
Coaches’ Intensive Program
January 25-26, 2014 in Tucson
Experience the mindset change that prominent 6- and 7-figure coaches attribute to their breakthroughs. Take advantage of this opportunity to work with Terry in a small group setting where you break through your own limiting money and value beliefs and learn the skills to do the same for your clients.
Because of the interest in the next Coach Certification Training program and Peruvian experience, we’re encouraging people to sign up early.
Register Today!
If you want to catapult your ability to change those troublesome beliefs that are stopping you and your clients in their tracks, register for this Intensive now!
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Belief Breakthrough Method™
Coach Certification Training Program
The current Coach Certification Training is already in progress, featuring…
- Intensive Group and Individual Mentoring so you will have immediate answers to your specific questions and the challenges preventing you from taking action for yourself and your clients.
- Featured Deliverable Modules as stand-alone programs that will expand your income and impact your clients in heartfelt and powerful ways.
- A Path to Coaching Mastery so you will be sought out for your unique skills.
The current program is really moving along, and we’re all getting excited about our trip to Peru in February. Part of the training will feature a once-in-a-lifetime experience working with a Peruvian healer and Shaman and interactions with the Quero tribe elders, “Keepers of the Ancient Wisdom.”
Participation in the next Certification Training experience requires that you attend an Intensive first, so if you want to ensure your eligibility, don’t miss the January Coaches’ Intensive Program!
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Bill Baren of Bill Baren Coaching recently raised the issue of accountability with a group of his coaches. They responded with varying ideas, some claiming that—as adults—clients have to hold themselves accountable, while others said as coaches their job is to find ways to hold their clients accountable for reaching their goals.
Accountability is an important theme of coaching because it’s not something we do intrinsically well. Rather than holding ourselves accountable, we’re much better at being accountable to others.
Indeed, only about 1% of people are really good at holding themselves accountable. Most are better at being accountable to others—they don’t want to let family, friends, clients, co-workers, or “the team” down. (That’s one of the benefits of joint ventures: You’re accountable to each other.)
In defense of those who sometimes struggle with being accountable to themselves andothers, they often don’t realize how much they can (or can’t) handle. They say “Yes” without realizing that they don’t have the bandwidth to do what they’re committing to. If you’re really good at being accountable, you recognize how long commitments will take, realistically, and you know when to say “No.” Some people, myself included, just don’t realize how long something might take or when we ought to decline an opportunity, thus making it hard to be timely and accountable.
Some who are good at holding themselves accountable have higher standards about what constitutes good work. In service to their accountability to self and others, they have to let go of perfectionist standards. It’s important to recognize when good enough is good enough.
Accountability is an important aspect of success. To develop your self-accountability you need to be able to…
- Gauge how long commitments or projects will take.
- Say “No” graciously.
- Recognize when something is “good enough.”
As a coach, ask your clients, “What is the best way for me to hold you accountable?”That question implies that accountability is important AND that they have a preferred way to be held accountable. For some a “kick in the butt” is more motivational than encouragement. As a coach, your job is to discover that and adapt to the style that works for them.
Your other job is to recognize what is preventing someone from being held accountable. You’ll probably find a problem with one of the 3 skills noted above.
Step back and objectively look at your ability to be self-accountable. You’re likely to discover that there are times or contexts in which you struggle. These are the areas in which coaching can be a great service to you. (You don’t have a coach? Then get one!)
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I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, please share them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts.
P.S. Do you want to share this post? Please do. Just be sure that it remains intact and includes the following bio.
About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Belief Breakthrough Method™
Coaches’ Intensive Program
October 12-13, 2013 Tucson
Experience the mindset change that prominent 6- and 7-figure coaches attribute to their breakthroughs. Take advantage of this opportunity to work with me in a small group setting where you break through your own limiting money and value beliefs and learn the skills to do the same for your clients.
Because of the interest in the next Coach Certification Training program, I’m encouraging people to sign up early for this Intensive. There’s a 10-person limit, and several people have already committed, so don’t wait…
Register Today
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Belief Breakthrough Method™
Coach Certification Training Program
The current Coach Certification Training is already in progress, featuring…
- Intensive Group and Individual Mentoring so you will have immediate answers to your specific questions and the challenges preventing you from taking action for yourself and your clients.
- Featured Deliverable Modules as stand-alone programs that will expand your income and impact your clients in heartfelt and powerful ways.
The current program is really moving along, and we’re all getting excited about our trip to Peru in February. Participation in the next Certification Trainingexperience requires that you attend an Intensive first, so if you want to ensure your eligibility, don’t miss the October Coaches’ Intensive Program!
Intensive retreat location photo © Loews Hotels