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Dream Big for Success
Posted by: | CommentsIt’s been a whirlwind of travel the past month, and I am about to leave today for Chicago for a seminar to train coaches on how to resolve limiting beliefs.
My travels began with San Diego last month, where I witnessed the fruition of two people’s “Big Dream.” Carey Peters and Stacey Morgenstern had their first of what I know will be many large gatherings to show health and nutrition practitioners how to run a business. Their audience, or tribe, is notorious for being mission driven but business phobic. One of the reasons Carey and Stacey were on stage is that they decided they were going to have a thriving business. What that meant for Carey was taking on some old demons linked to money. Money is really a generic way to think about prospering—you know, actually living a life with sufficient money to really allow your message to be in the world. Many of us have taken on beliefs that make prospering, as opposed to struggling, almost impossible.
Carey and Stacey overcame early messages about charging what you are worth and feeling good about it. Not only did they do that, but they now know the steps they took to make it happen. The two of them described their struggles and how they overcome them so that their clients could put in place the steps necessary to create thriving businesses. Most important, they continuously stressed the necessity to take on limiting beliefs about money and business practices. They know that without the work on mindset, there is a low likelihood of setting and reaching high financial goals
The other area that they so clearly modeled was the importance of investing in both your business and yourself. Their program went well because they had a team in place and had a structure that supported what they did. They acted like the success they are. A quote comes to mind: “Success leaves clues.”
For the past month I have been struggling with putting more foundational structures in place. I say struggling because my wife Beth and my VA Kristi Pavlik have pushed me ( I don’t think it’s been easy for them) in the direction I need to go if I am to maintain the level of success and, even more important, impact on the world that I want to have.
When you think about wanting to be a “success” and you have in mind someone like Carey or Stacey, take time to discover the mindsets they have or have adopted that made their success possible. The group I am connecting with in Chicago will be doing mindset work. I think the next Carey Peters will come out of this work.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
How to Recognize Resistance and Stop It in Its Tracks
Posted by: | CommentsOne goal in coaching is to avoid bringing out or strengthening a client’s resistance. Ultimately, how you as a coach deal with your clients’ resistance determines success.
We as coaches sometimes take the easy way out with “difficult clients” by attributing resistance and lack of success to the client’s personality. However, consider that client resistance is mainly determined by the coach (although there will always be exceptions).
Research in behavioral science has confirmed that the extent to which clients “resist” is powerfully determined by the therapist’s style. This means that client resistance is a coach’s problem. And developing a style that minimizes resistance is important for your clients’ success as well as your own.
So what is resistance?
From my perspective, resistance appears as observable behavior that occurs during sessions. It can signal the coach that the client is not keeping up. The client is saying, “Wait a minute. I don’t agree. I’m not with you.” The task at this point is to double back, discover where the client is, and attend to that point.
To do this, you need to be able to recognize resistance when it is happening. Consider beginning to notice if your client engages in any of these 4 major categories of resistance as defined in Behavior Therapy by Chamberlain et al.:
- Arguing: Your client questions your expertise or integrity
- Interrupting: Your client interrupts you in a defensive manner by talking over you or cutting you off
- Denying: Your client expresses an unwillingness to recognize problems or minimizes them; disagrees with suggestions but offers no constructive alternatives, i.e., “Yes, but…”; blames others and does not accept responsibility; makes excuses for own behavior; or is reluctant or unwilling to take advice
- Ignoring: Your client shows evidence of not paying attention to you or ignoring you
Resistant responses are normal during initial coaching and not a reason for concern. It does become a problem, however, if resistant responses persist or escalate during a session or throughout the coaching process. It is largely your behavior as the coach that determines whether initial reluctance turns into a persistent pattern. It is how you respond to client resistance that makes the difference, and that distinguishes Belief Breakthrough Method™ work from other approaches.
So consider paying careful attention to these signs of resistance and take the time to slow down and catch up with your client. Begin by simply acknowledging the client’s disagreement, emotion, or perception so that further exploration—rather than defensiveness—occurs.
Next month I will cover more specific strategies for handling resistance.
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Are You Ready to Leap to the Next Level?
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There are only 2 spots left to quickly break through money plateaus!
I wanted to let you know that our Belief Breakthrough Method Coaches Intensive Program in Chicago is nearly full.
I designed this small-group coaching program so youll learn why you and your clients get stuck and what to do about it fast.
Imagine gaining key information on the nature of limiting beliefs, masterful language skills, and behavior change techniques to help you break through the old patterns holding you back from your vision of success.
You can see from the list of things included in the program that it is designed to deliver a high level of accountability, coaching and support so youll gain clear strategies and techniques to understand you and your clients limiting money and success mindsets and beliefsand have the ability to change them.
There are a lot of benefits to this program, and by far the biggest outcome is that you will gain a step-by-step system to help you and your clients change faster and with greater ease, helping you create focus, advance confidence, leverage your talent, and increase your income.
Just in case youre thinking about waiting any longer,
keep in mind that the $1,497 investment offer
only lasts until Wednesday, June 15, at midnight.
Risk is better then regret.
Terry
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Do You Have an Energizing Mission?
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According to studies of people who have survived “incurable” cancers, they had two things in common at the time they were battling the disease. First, they believed that their treatment—whatever it was—would work. Second, they experienced a re-mission; their illnesses didn’t disappear, but they took on something larger than themselves, a new mission. They dedicated themselves to a new life’s work. For some it was a charity, for others a friend or family member, but in all cases, they took on something they felt was more important than themselves.
Waiki, our chow chow, is currently struggling with cancer. Since becoming sick, she has been less focused on our other dogs and more focused on us. She is now dedicated to her relationship with Beth and me. Waiki depends on us in ways she didn’t or wouldn’t before, even allowing me to pick her up and put her in the car. She embodies trust.
Waiki’s health was deteriorating when I left for Las Vegas at the end of July, and it got worse upon my departure. When I cut my trip short and returned home, however, she improved. Something about me coming home allowed her a recovery or remission of sorts. Her tumor stopped bleeding; she starting eating on her own; and she began walking much better. Since that time she no longer is affected by her tumor, and even though she struggles to get up from the floor, she is always up for her daily walk.
Beliefs can have that effect. They are powerful. To help clients who are struggling with an illness, try to connect them with an important mission. Assist them in finding a higher purpose, and it might make a difference. The flipside of this is exemplified in retirement. Those who feel like they lost their identity and purpose upon retirement may have a hard time enjoying it.
People who have a mission they really identify with rarely struggle with motivation. Rather than trying to address motivation on a behavioral level, look at the reasons for doing what you’re doing. Establishing or reconnecting with a purpose reduces the issue of motivation. When there is a strongly held mission, things like behaviors, motivation and identity are more likely to fall into place.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Meet Terry, Part 2
Posted by: | CommentsFor those of you who would like to know more about me, this is the continuation of last week’s post.
Did You Know…
1. That my son Phil is a musician in Berlin, Germany? He’s performing at a wedding in the photo below.
2. That my sister, Kathy, is head of the Peace Corps’ Spanish language program in Peru? She’s on the right in the photo below, with my dogs and her husband Leo. I’m on the left with granddaughter Gabriel.
3. That I love soccer. I play in a 45+ league now, and I used to serve as a color commentator for professional indoor soccer. That was a great opportunity for me to combine two passions: soccer and communication. I did this twice before the Spanish-language station, Telemundo, and the team, Arizona Sandsharks, were sold. As if commentating weren’t fun enough, I also got to do some warm-ups and passing drills with the team!
Meet Terry, Part 1
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Someone recently pointed out that I’ve shared more personal information in my newsletter than on this blog or website. I’ve taken the hint and decided to include some new pictures as well as clips from the “Did You Know?” and “Travels with Terry” sections of my ezine, Belief Change Alchemy. If you haven’t already, I invite you to subscribe to that now.
My wife Beth Haggerty and I live in Tucson, Arizona. In addition to Salka, whom you’ve already met, we are happy to share our lives with Munai (left) and Waiki (center).
As I mentioned earlier this month, one of my goals is to travel on all of the major rivers of the world. I’ve been on ten so far, including the Amazon (left), Rhine (middle) and Russian River (in Alaska, right).
What Do You Want?
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In my last post I described how the process of visualizing what you want can be a powerful motivator. Indeed, effective change is easier when you have a clear sense of what you want. When you can clearly state exactly what you desire, then your unconscious mind is more likely to “get it.”
In order to facilitate this, you should to spend a lot of time visualizing what you want, feeling and experiencing it in your mind’s eye. Doing this allows your unconscious mind to organize your thoughts and behavior in ways that will help you get what you want.
When you do exercises like these, it’s important to focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. Only visualize representations of what you truly would like.
When I utilize hypnosis with clients, I often use this process first. I find that by helping them clearly describe their goals and desires prior to hypnosis, their unconscious minds will be more receptive to suggestion while under hypnosis. They will then be more open to the reaffirming suggestions I make during hypnosis.
For example, if someone says that he or she wants to be engaged in learning on a more regular basis, then that person should talk about wanting to learn. In hypnosis, you can then suggest ways to make learning possible and to assist the client in being open to learning, saying things like, “When you leave here, you may discover that you learn more easily than before. You’ll realize how important learning is to you, and you may discover even more ways of learning.”
In this particular example, what’s important about the process is that learning has taken on new meaning. In the grander scheme, this exercise is about framing your mindset. You have to determine what you consider to be important so your mind will know how to go about the process of supporting that goal in just the right way.
Note: One of my goals is to travel on all of the major rivers of the world, and I’ve been on ten so far. The waterfall pictured was one of the many spectacular views I enjoyed while traveling along the Manú River in Peru. Have you visualized your travel goals?
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Need a Motivation Booster?
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If you want to create a more powerful motivation, try the following exercise.
Picture what you want in front of you. Mentally describe what you want as if you are seeing the actual event. Make sure the image is a large, compelling, juicy picture with lots of color. It should be close to you. Move it around, focusing on different details until it optimizes your motivation. When you have formed a vision of what you really want, you should feel it in your body.
All right. Now step into the image.
You can almost always improve your motivation with this exercise. To maximize the experience, make sure that the image you visualize is large and compelling, including details and color.
This exercise helped a coach in California who was having trouble with motivation. It turns out that she only saw her vision in the future. By moving it closer, she felt compelled to take action. With her increased motivation, she found that she could accomplish a week’s worth of work in just a few days!
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Are You Living Your Dreams?
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Thierry Henry photo courtesy Wikipedia
While Beth and I were at a professional soccer game last Saturday night featuring the New York Red Bulls and Sporting Kansas City, we noticed that the Red Bulls’ featured player (star) was Thierry Henry. We then realized that it was exactly 10 years ago to the day that Beth and I saw him play in London when he was new to Arsenal Soccer.
We got to meet Thierry back then because we were working for Tony Adams, who was the captain of the team at that time. We had been hired to set up an addiction clinic for professional athletes, which also included a peak performance aspect. As part of working for Tony, we went to several Arsenal games and sat in his box. Afterwards we were invited to the post-game party in the club. It was there that we met Thierry.
Working in London for Tony Adams was a dream job, not only because I love soccer—and still play—but also because I had the chance to work for one of the world’s best soccer stars.
I truly believe that experience was the result of setting two different goals: one to work internationally and another to work with professional athletes. I just didn’t know that I would get to do both at once.
What important dreams are you setting in place? Do you have the beliefs to support those dreams? Search your memory and see if you have had an experience like mine—one that was the result of setting a big goal and then going for it.
