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An Appeal from Salka
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This is a bit off-topic from my usual posts, but it’s important to me and Salka.
As you can see in this photo, Salka is perfectly comfortable in the lobby of a dog-friendly hotel. In fact, he often goes with me to several dog-friendly businesses. Due to changes in corporate policy, unfortunately, he is no longer welcome at some of the places we used to go. As a result, I may stop going to those places, and I know the same is true for others with companions like Salka.
Salka understands that the policies may have changed because some of his brethren are not well behaved. Nevertheless, he encourages pack leaders say something to these businesses, because there are many of us who make choices based upon such policies. In fact, Salka and I have already stopped going to a couple of banks specifically because of these policy changes.
If you are a pack leader with pull, please do what you can to encourage businesses to adopt or maintain dog-friendly policies as appropriate for their clientele. Salka and I appreciate your efforts.
Are there any experiences you’d like to share regarding a dog-friendly business?
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Rubbing Elbows with the Rich and Famous
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At last! After spending the better part of a week traveling, I was finally able to successfully download my pictures from the recent Secret Millionaire party at James Malinchaks house in Las Vegas. This is one of my favorites, featuring (from left to right) James, myself and Robin Leach, who served as the MC for the event.
Is It Time to Work or Play (or Sleep)?
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Like all dogs, Salka has sleep time, eating time and playtime. His energy level is at its highest early in the morning, and he makes the most of that.
We all have a time when we do things better. Take a cue from him and discover what your rhythm is for certain things. If you work best at 3:00 in the morning, don’t “weird out” about it. Work with it!
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Meet Terry, Part 2
Posted by: | CommentsFor those of you who would like to know more about me, this is the continuation of last week’s post.
Did You Know…
1. That my son Phil is a musician in Berlin, Germany? He’s performing at a wedding in the photo below.
2. That my sister, Kathy, is head of the Peace Corps’ Spanish language program in Peru? She’s on the right in the photo below, with my dogs and her husband Leo. I’m on the left with granddaughter Gabriel.
3. That I love soccer. I play in a 45+ league now, and I used to serve as a color commentator for professional indoor soccer. That was a great opportunity for me to combine two passions: soccer and communication. I did this twice before the Spanish-language station, Telemundo, and the team, Arizona Sandsharks, were sold. As if commentating weren’t fun enough, I also got to do some warm-ups and passing drills with the team!
Meet Terry, Part 1
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Someone recently pointed out that I’ve shared more personal information in my newsletter than on this blog or website. I’ve taken the hint and decided to include some new pictures as well as clips from the “Did You Know?” and “Travels with Terry” sections of my ezine, Belief Change Alchemy. If you haven’t already, I invite you to subscribe to that now.
My wife Beth Haggerty and I live in Tucson, Arizona. In addition to Salka, whom you’ve already met, we are happy to share our lives with Munai (left) and Waiki (center).
As I mentioned earlier this month, one of my goals is to travel on all of the major rivers of the world. I’ve been on ten so far, including the Amazon (left), Rhine (middle) and Russian River (in Alaska, right).
What Will YOU Do When You Reach Your Goals?
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What a weekend! I just returned from Las Vegas, where I celebrated James Malinchak’s appearance on ABC’s Secret Millionaire.
Malinchak hosted a party that began with a webcast of the program Sunday afternoon and continued with the full television broadcast that night. He limited his guest list to 100 people, excluding celebrities. One notable attendee was Robin Leach, former host of Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous. James had arranged for him to serve as the MC.
What I saw at James’s party was a wonderful example of how somebody can marry money with a high-level mission. For those who have been able to create this kind of income, it speaks to their ability to have a tremendous impact at a high level. It’s also representative of what you can do when you reach your goals.
I attended this event with my good friend and fellow coach, Larry LaPrade. It was an incredible networking opportunity, and we both made the most of it.
Speaking of networking, I’m attending the Infusionsoft User Conference (2011 InfusionCon) in Phoenix this week, where James Malinchak and Brain Tracy are both delivering keynote addresses. I’m working in the area as well, spending some valuable face-to-face time with a few of my Phoenix clients. If you’re nearby and want to hook up, give me a call (520.237.4435) to see if we can work something out.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Do You Need to Address an Internal Conflict?
Posted by: | CommentsRecently in doing work with coaches who are deciding where they want to be in their business or in their earnings, I have come across similar struggles they are having precisely because they are pushing themselves.
When you as a coach move to higher levels of success, you often run into questions and challenges that force you to consider what is really important to you about your work.
Sometimes these questions and inner struggles occur because coaches aren’t certain they want to continue modeling themselves after the successful mentors they have been following up to this point. They wonder if
they should do things differently.
In order to advance to another level and be congruent, coaches must determine what’s right for them. Until you resolve these issues, you cannot reach and maintain a higher level of success.
| It’s not about your mentors or role models being right or wrong—it’s about what’s right for you. |
The sticky part of this process is determining which of the following reasons is the cause of your dilemma: a limiting belief about higher-level success or a conflict of values—a concern about doing something that’s not in harmony with who you are. Either way, you must be willing to take on the struggle in order to move beyond it.
Today, I’m going to focus on the latter issue: honoring your own values.
There are a myriad of extremely successful, high-level coaches in our field with an equally wide-ranging number of approaches. Some can be controversial. Some may have enviable results but use techniques you’d rather
not employ. Some you may have emulated until just recently, but now you question whether their methods are right for you.
Keep in mind that these can be matters of perception. They may involve situations that are not strictly black and white. What some successful coaches may consider to be appropriate and necessary business decisions might also—thought perfectly legal—go against your values.
Whether your concerns are related to rates, style, presentation, content, value or something else entirely, you need to address them and determine what works for you. Integrity is self-defined. Remember, it’s not about your mentors or role models being right or wrong—it’s about what’s right for you.
Again, determine if your challenge is about congruence and values or about beliefs and stepping up in a different way. For some it may be both. Once you identify what is bothering you, start to address the issues one at a time.
The learning point comes when you step up or attempt to act at a higher level, for there can be a reaction. You may experience a “parts split” that will show up as an internal struggle such as, “Part of me wants this, and another part of me wants that.” Treat this as an important opportunity to discover what is really important to you.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Do You Know Where You Stand?
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If you’ve been following my blog, you met Salka last week this month. (If not, find out more about him here.)
Salka is always acutely aware of his environment and how he fits into it. As you probably know, dogs like to “leave their mark,” designating their territory wherever they go. They will even go out of their way to do this on top of marks left by other canines. I have seen people execute similar—albeit more “civilized”—behaviors in corporate settings, trying to establish dominance and vie for position as the alpha male or female.
Knowing where you stand in relationship to others is important not just for dogs but also for humans. Do you know where you stand in your most important business and personal relationships?
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Want to Relieve Stress and Improve Your Mood?
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I recently completed Stress-Busting Mood Lifter, which is my current download of the month. While completing this audio I realized that it is useful to consider stress as a given—a necessary fact of life. What becomes important is how you decide to manage it.
With that in mind, I challenge you to think about the following.
- What are your strategies for managing the stress in your life?
- What would happen if you decided to actively create down time and didn’t give into the “I don’t have enough time” trap?
- Do you recognize that creating peace goes deeper than the circumstances around you?
So what do you do to manage the stress in your life? Do you use a proactive approach? How do you think of stress? Please share your comments, for I am curious about how others deal with the stress in their lives.
For more information about Stress-Busting Mood Lifter and similar recordings, check out my Belief Breakthrough Series™ 2011 Download of the Month Club.
P.S. This sunset photo was taken from my back yard, a great place for me to create peace and manage my stress.
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What Do You Want?
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In my last post I described how the process of visualizing what you want can be a powerful motivator. Indeed, effective change is easier when you have a clear sense of what you want. When you can clearly state exactly what you desire, then your unconscious mind is more likely to “get it.”
In order to facilitate this, you should to spend a lot of time visualizing what you want, feeling and experiencing it in your mind’s eye. Doing this allows your unconscious mind to organize your thoughts and behavior in ways that will help you get what you want.
When you do exercises like these, it’s important to focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. Only visualize representations of what you truly would like.
When I utilize hypnosis with clients, I often use this process first. I find that by helping them clearly describe their goals and desires prior to hypnosis, their unconscious minds will be more receptive to suggestion while under hypnosis. They will then be more open to the reaffirming suggestions I make during hypnosis.
For example, if someone says that he or she wants to be engaged in learning on a more regular basis, then that person should talk about wanting to learn. In hypnosis, you can then suggest ways to make learning possible and to assist the client in being open to learning, saying things like, “When you leave here, you may discover that you learn more easily than before. You’ll realize how important learning is to you, and you may discover even more ways of learning.”
In this particular example, what’s important about the process is that learning has taken on new meaning. In the grander scheme, this exercise is about framing your mindset. You have to determine what you consider to be important so your mind will know how to go about the process of supporting that goal in just the right way.
Note: One of my goals is to travel on all of the major rivers of the world, and I’ve been on ten so far. The waterfall pictured was one of the many spectacular views I enjoyed while traveling along the Manú River in Peru. Have you visualized your travel goals?
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
