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Apr
17

Are You Willing to Do What It Takes to Succeed?

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This question alone presupposes that success is a measure or reflection of the actions you’re willing to take.

It’s easy to do what is easy for you—the problem is when what you need to do to be successful is difficult to do. When studies take a look at successful entrepreneurs and businesses, one thing they all have in common is their willingness to do what it takes to succeed. In general, this meant doing the things that were difficult, things that took determination.

Not that you can’t delegate, but you may need to make that extra telephone call, write that extra e-mail, or make that decision that affects your finances… because the failure to do so might slow the growth of your business or movement.

Spend some time thinking about the answer to this: “What are the steps that, if I took them, would make a difference in my business?”

This question presupposes that you actually know the steps and that something would need to happen for you to take them. If you discover that you don’t yet know the steps, that in and of itself can preclude you from taking action.

These seemingly simple questions can generate the kind of answers that, if you’re willing to act on them, will give you big results.

I’ve been watching my spouse define her new business. She’s been an inspiration because she’s been putting in long hours to make it happen. It hasn’t been easy; it’s been a struggle. At times she’s been frustrated, and it’s only been her commitment to following through the process that has made her stick with it.

So if you’re struggling (and if you’re in business, of course you are), it just means that you’re on the right track, and you need to ask yourself these questions.

Since you’re used to me talking about beliefs, I haven’t left those out. As you ask yourself the questions above, you’re likely to come across some of the following questions that reveal underlying beliefs:

  • Is the struggle worth it?
  • Are you capable of achieving success?
  • Will what you do make a difference?

You’re not likely to get to these beliefs unless you’re willing to take on the questions above. Answering all of these questions for yourself will reveal if you’re willing to do what it takes to succeed.

I would love to hear how well this approach works for you. Share your feedback and comments below.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Mar
20

How to Increase Wealth in Your Life

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The idea of increasing wealth in your life presupposes that you know what wealth is and that there are ways to increase wealth.

Understanding what wealth means to you is also important—is it money or something else?

Wealth is one of our universal experiences. Everyone has some idea of wealth; it just means different things to different people.  I have been particularly interested in this theme because it often emerges when I’m coaching.

Many of my coaching clients want to increase the amount of money they make, and what I discover is that money represents something. It is often expressed as some equivalent such as, “If I had more money I could do _______ or be _______.” The idea is that such an outcome will lead to happiness. When we believe that happiness depends on outside factors such as people or things, especially money, we are caught in a dilemma. That idea is a myth; your happiness depends on your appreciation of what you are and how you are in the world, not on external people or events. All too often we focus on externals to try to achieve happiness.

Focus on appreciating what you have. Be grateful for that, instead of sad and anxious about what you don’t have. Some people go so far as to keep a gratitude journal, noting on a daily or weekly basis what they are grateful for. It works!

This post came from my letter to members of the 2013 Download of the Month Club. They will also receive the corresponding recording along with guidelines for their hypnotic session. Interested? Join now to receive this month’s download and to ensure that you get all of the remaining recordings for 2013—for just $14.97 a month.

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Feb
26

How to Create Lasting Changes by Applying Systems Thinking to Your Beliefs

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“A decision is only as good as the processes used to produce it.”

This idea is the basis for Einstein’s premise that you cannot solve a problem with the same kind of thinking that got you into it.

You can gain more insight into your beliefs and ways of acting by applying systems thinking to your own system of thinking, because our beliefs are themselves a system. Yes, that’s a little confusing, so I’ll say it again, “You can gain more insight into your beliefs and ways of acting by applying systems thinking to your own system of thinking, because our beliefs are themselves a system.”

Mental Models

We have habitual ways of thinking that we fall into time and again. Our beliefs underlie how we approach problems, what we even think problems mean, and the kinds of solutions we’re willing to consider. This overall way of understanding our thinking is referred to as mental models: mental because they exist in our minds and motivate our actions; models because we construct them from our overall experiences.

Mental models are common—everyone has them. Our early learning, our experiences, our overall “map of the world” forms the basis for these models. These in turn form our beliefs as we apply them to real life. We form them. We hold onto them. They are ours. We even talk about “having beliefs” or “adopting beliefs” or “acquiring beliefs.” We will defend them from attack. We also talk about holding them or even abandoning them. When we do abandon a belief, it’s gone for good, and there the void that remains needs to be filled by another belief.

Processes That Keep You Stuck

Our mental models are personal and deep rooted, and they predispose us to act in certain ways. That’s why it’s often difficult to learn from mistakes because oftentimes what may be called a mistake is actually “justified” based upon our particular models. We mistake our view for reality—because in our mind, it is.

So, how can you use this? If you continue to experience similar difficulties or problems, you must consider this: “What are the underlying beliefs that are getting you—and keeping you—stuck?”

One way to think about it is that we create blind spots. This is the phenomenon of deletion. We are selective about what we notice. Based upon what we notice, we form ideas and take action. There’s a plethora of information that we fail to pay attention to. Sometimes adopting a new form of self questioning, like “What am I failing to consider?” presupposes that there is information out that that you haven’t noticed, and the question itself will open you up to considering that other information.

The opposite of the blind spot is the idea of constructing meaning from something that isn’t there. Your mind will make meaning out of a gibberish sentence or misspelling because it knows what should or ought to be there. For instance, just because someone questions us, we might assume that they don’t like us. This assumption was probably formed long ago, and there may be no basis for it, but we act as if it were true. We may continue acting this way, as if that were true, rather than challenging that assumption.

The next part of the mental model that is problematic is distortion. Distortion is how we change our experience—emphasizing some parts and discounting others. It can even be the basis of creativity or paranoia. When we distort events, we give weight to some experiences more than others. For example, many gamblers continue to believe they can and will win, despite the fact that they keep losing. Their minds reframe the losses as near wins. Another example is jealousy. A jealous person can distort all sorts of everyday events into painful, threatening possibilities.

Finally, there’s generalization. We create all of our mental models by taking experiences and making them represent groups. For example, a child witnesses how his father treats his mother and can generalize from this experience how men should treat women. One of the problems is that once we generalize, we can become blinded to other possibilities. For example, someone may generalize from an earlier coaching experience that didn’t work out and decide that coaching doesn’t work.

Taken all together, these mental models—deletions, distortion and generalization—are the basis of our learning and creativity and all of our beliefs, including the ones that serve us well. From a systems viewpoint, we want to be able to examine how these four principles combine and how they reinforce. They are the loops that keep the system in place.

The implication for all of this is that you have to be able to step back and begin to notice how your system is working. As is often said in earlier writings, if you change one belief within a system, that may not be enough because a system, by definition, is made up of many reinforcing and supporting elements. It will usually not suffice to just change one part of a system.

This article was inspired by The Art of Systems Thinking: Essential Skills for Creativity by Joseph O’Connor and Ian McDermott.

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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/

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Jan
13

Last Chance for January’s Coaches’ Intensive Program

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Belief Breakthrough Method™

Coaches’ Intensive Program

January 26-27, 2013

At the Loews Ventana Canyon resort in Tucson 

Three Reasons to Register Now 

Reason #1: Eligibility for Terry’s new Intensive Graduate Program and Certification—only those who have attended a Coaches’ Intensive Program can attend this new program, tentatively set to begin in February 2013.

Reason #2: The new Bring a Friend Discount—if you and a friend both register for this month’s Intensive, you will each get $400 off the currently listed price. This is the lowest rate available. E-mail my Client Care Manager at adele@adonai-llc.com for more information about this option.

Reason #3: Transformation—this mid-winter getaway at the Loews Ventana Canyon resort in Tucson can transform your business and your life! 

Take advantage of this opportunity to work with Terry in a small group setting where you experience your own breakthroughs while learning how to facilitate breakthroughs for your clients.

  • Would you like to learn WHY you and your clients get stuck and what to do about it… FAST?
  • Would you like a step-by-step system that will help you and your clients change faster and with greater ease?
  • Would you like to receive your training from a recognized Master of transformational change?

Remember, as a newsletter reader you can get a $200 discount off the listed price by using the code subscribe in the Shopping Cart during checkout.

If you want to catapult your ability to change those troublesome beliefs that are stopping you and your clients in their tracks, then register for this Intensive now!

Belief Breakthrough Method™ Coaches’ Intensive Program

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Jan
11

Achieve Your Goals by Setting Well-Formed Outcomes

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What I want to accomplish in this post is to explain how you can achieve the goals you want while attending to the conditions necessary to do so. In yesterday’s post, Have You Set SMART Goals?, I described the SMART conditions necessary to achieve goals. One you have described the goal, this Outcomes process will ensure that you achieve your goal.

Well-formedness conditions are the set of conditions your outcome must satisfy in order to produce an effective and ecological result. A particular goal is considered “well-formed” if it meets the following conditions.

A well-formed goal can be…

  1. Stated in positive terms.
  2. Defined and evaluated according to sensory-based evidence.
  1. Initiated and maintained by the person who desires the goal.
  1. Made to preserve the positive by-products of the present state.
  2. Appropriately contextualized to fit the ecology of the surrounding system.

Goals should be stated in positive terms, for the unconscious mind does not understand a goal stated in the negative. So a goal like “I don’t want to be broke” or “I don’t want to be sick” would need to be changed into what someone does want. Try asking a question like this: “If you weren’t broke, what would you want instead?” It’s easier to motivate yourself towards a positive outcome.

Next, you must be able to measure the outcome against a destination or benchmark. So ask something like this: “What will let you know you are moving towards your goal?” (This also implies knowing when you are not moving towards your goal.) You can flesh it out further by asking yourself or a client, “What will you see, hear and feel when you have achieved your outcome?” Get information that is as specific as possible.

Make sure that the achievement of the goal depends on what you do, not on what someone else has control over. For example, if you say, “I want my boss to respect me,” that is not in your control. If you were coaching someone in this instance, you could ask, “What would your boss be doing if he were respecting you?” The response to that could then lead to asking how your client might behave to get the desired response.

Keep in mind the idea that all behaviors have a positive benefit in some context. For this example, consider someone who wants to stop smoking. It turns out that for this person, smoking helped manage stress. Unless the new behavior includes a way to manage stress, the original positive by-products will not be maintained. Missing this can result in what many people label as self-sabotage. This is where thinking systemically is helpful.

Lastly, you want to explore the areas of context and ecology. By context I mean looking at the areas you want the outcome in. Sometimes you might mark out the goal as absolute, using words like always or in all areas. Consider that in some areas an old behavior might still serve you, and in some contexts a new behavior might actually be a problem. To assess this, ask questions like, “Will getting this outcome be a problem for anyone else?” or “Could having this outcome be a problem for me (or you, in the case of a client) in any way?” Achieving a new financial goal might potentially cause alienation in a family. If you become very successful, a partner might feel threatened. Asking the right questions teases these issues out so they can be planned for.

Now you have several ways to check your goals… and your clients’ goals. Using this process in conjunction with the SMART process should make your goal setting much more successful.

Good luck in 2013, and may you achieve what your heart desires!

I would love to hear what you think about this. Please share your feedback and comments below.

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Jan
10

Have You Set SMART Goals?

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Here’s a helpful process for setting goals. This tip is longer than usual, but I think you’ll find it to be well worth your time.

I want you to distinguish between states and goals or outcomes. A state, like happiness or confidence, is somewhat nebulous; it’s also something that you don’t have to wait for—you can actually have it right now. A goal, on the other hand, is very tangible. For instance, you might say you want to earn $100,000 in 2013, and that is something you can measure. At the end of 2013, you will know if you have achieved that or not.

A mistake people often make is to say things like “When I achieve my financial goals, then I can feel secure” or “When I lose this weight, I can then feel happy.” You can have those feelings right now—you don’t actually have to wait. With goals or outcomes, however, there has to be an element of time involved and actions taken. Goals are quantifiable. States are infinite—they can be stated for yourself or for others. You can be happy for yourself and decide to feel happy for someone else or for their accomplishments. Goals can only be set for yourself, not for others.

Notice I said states are achievable by you at any time. However, you may not know how to achieve a particular state. That may be something you need to be shown, or you may have to learn how.

If you are lacking a goal or outcome, you may not yet have a strategy or know the steps required to get there. Also if you do not have a sufficient level of belief about your ability to achieve a goal, then it is unlikely that you will do so. The higher your level of belief is, the higher your motivation to take decisive action.

Another belief plays a factor in your goals: believing that the effort you will need to expend is worth the result or the goal. If you have ever had 100% certainty that you could achieve a goal, and you believed the effort was 100% worth it, then you achieved it. Of course the goal also has to satisfy certain other factors or criteria, such as being in your control. For example, you might have set a goal to get a raise at work but still not have gotten it because of factors beyond your control. You might have more control over sales or production, and you could set goals accordingly.

The reason to have goals is to give direction to your life. Your unconscious mind requires directions—it needs to be told what to do and what to focus on. Goals will provide consistent instructions on where to go in life. If you do not set goals, your unconscious mind won’t know what you want, and who knows what it will come up with. That is also why goals need to be framed in the positive, stating what you want, not what you don’t want.

There is a specific way to express goals that will increase your success in achieving goals. This comes by way of an acronym called S. M. A. R. T.

S stands for specific and simple. If you set a goal like “I want more money,” that’s not specific enough. You need to specify how much more, and you need to specify the time frame. Simple speaks to not making it overly complex, or having too much detail. However, you will need enough details to create clarity for your unconscious mind.

M stands for measurable and meaningful. If you don’t have a way to measure your goal, it may not actually be a goal. There has to be a way to determine whether you achieved it or not. Also, is it meaningful to you? Does it give you passion? Is it something you really want? Is it juicy? Remember, if someone else sets it for you, it may be meaningful to them but not necessarily to you. Sometimes in coaching programs you may be encouraged to set financial goals that are meaningful to your coach but not necessarily to you. Sometimes your goal may end up benefiting others but is specifically for you. An example of this is raising money for charity. If you’re passionate about that charity, you will benefit from achieving that goal.

A stands for all areas of life. It is expressed as if they are already happening. Present tense is better than future tense. For example, “It’s December 31, 2013, and my business generated $100,000 in coaching revenue this year.”

R stands for realistic and responsible. Now it’s important ask realistic to whom or responsible according to what, but it also helps to just notice what your track record for setting goals has been. If you’re pretty good at it and have had a lot of success, then you should set more difficult or challenging goals. If you’re newer to goal setting or haven’t had really good track records in the past, then being realistic may mean setting goals that are somewhat easier to achieve—unless, of course, you’ve been able to increase your beliefs about your ability to succeed. Remember that your definition of realistic depends on your own experience, not someone else’s. (This is also an opportunity for you to notice your beliefs about what is realistic.)

As for responsible, there are three questions you can ask yourself to determine if your goal or goals are responsible: 1. Is it safe for me? 2. Is it safe for others? 3. Is it safe for the environment or the planet? If you get a “Yes” to all three, then most likely it is a responsible goal. Furthermore, it’s helpful that your goal satisfy the requirements of being ecological—that is to say that it will not create problems in other areas of your life. Just ask yourself, “Will getting this goal create problems in any other important areas of my life?”

When setting goals make sure you address all the important areas of your life, such as health, relationships, business, spirituality or any other area that is significant to you. You may have seen illustrated “wheels of life” divided into segments to identify areas deemed most significant. When you actually look at goals in all of these areas, you can also notice where there might be potential conflict between these important areas.

T stands for Timed and Toward. Be precise about time, specifying day, month, year and sometimes even clock time. Remember also that it’s important to specify as though you are in the present tense. So you might say, “It’s December 31, 2013, and I am looking at my bank balance of $1 million.” Toward means describing what you want in a positive manner, an expression of what you want not what you don’t want.

Running your goals through this SMART process should make them achievable. Use the comments section below to let me know how it goes.

In the follow-up post tomorrow, we’ll take a look at what I call the well-formed outcome, which will help you carry out processes and steps necessary to achieve your goals.

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Jan
03

Terry’s Healing Blog, Part 4: Recovery

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Well the surgery is over, and I am in the recovery phase!

Let me back up a bit…

Before Surgery

It’s been a while, and a lot has happened. I saw Dr. Peter Carroll at UCSF, who confirmed the severity of the cancer and suggested surgery as an intervention. One good piece of news was the improvement in my PSA from a 10.1 to a 7. The reduction was a result of the aggressive use of supplements. I have been very good at being consistent with those, so the results were expected.

I have a belief that focusing on healing facilitates healing because it makes the unconscious organize behavior in pursuit of what I am focused on. To make that focus even more powerful, I have participated in meditation and hypnosis. That process makes it even easier to continue focusing on healing. I used the meditation time to decide on my options for surgery.

I decided to have robotic surgery at the VA because I knew I needed the surgery and wanted to be close to family. A sense of relief came from making that decision. Since then I have been seeing a health coach who has helped me to make meaning of my illness. My beliefs about symptoms are framed around the idea that symptoms are communications for needed actions.

“It’s interesting that my response to this illness is to use it as an opportunity to make choices about what is most important. I have really been able to spend quality time in the aftershocks of this entire experience.”

One of the best experiences has been my ability to open up to my friends and family and ask for support and help. Of course this has led to more closeness and, not surprisingly, a willingness to share even more.

Surgery and Hospitalization

I had a da Vinci® radical prostatectomy with robotic surgery, which meant smaller incisions and more rapid healing. I was up and walking, slowly, 10 hours after my surgery. I had a catheter for the next seven days so my bladder could drain.

While in the hospital I had a chance to work because currently we (Patient Success Systems) are involved in a project to help doctors improve their patient satisfaction scores. This is a big deal in the medical industry because these scores will affect future reimbursements from Medicare and possibly other insurers. The work we are doing is more specifically focused on patient-centered care. As the name implies, the patient is actively involved in the process.

Well, if I were scoring my providers, they would not have done well. There is an active push to make patient-centered care more successful, but it will require hospitals and medical providers to examine and likely change some of their ideas about how care is administered in hospital settings.

You may be wondering why did they not do well. For starters, they often ignored my wife, as though she were not present. Also, communication between doctors and nurses was poor, which meant that I was either not informed or misinformed. I did my best to be a good patient in the sense that I cooperated in my recovery, asked questions when I did not understand, and made sure that my concerns were at least acknowledged.

So, what went well? Well the care I received was quite good. My needs were responded to in a timely fashion, and when I requested something, attempts were made to get it.

Back Home

When I was discharged my follow up was not set up well, and so as soon as I was home, I needed to advocate for my care. One discovery I made was that patient care is often set up for the ease of the medical system, not what is best for the patient.

The risk management procedures hospitals have in place can be frustrating and may not make any sense… unless you understand that the fear of legal issues has made many decisions that ought to be reasonable stupid. An example: for the operation I was held upside down on a platform, so there were some weird, painful side effects like dry eyes. So I asked for eye drops. Nope, I couldn’t have them until the doctor approved the order. I could tell the nurse was almost as frustrated as I was. Of course when the doctor came in next morning, the order was given and I received the drops. My wife was about to go to the drugstore to get them.

There were similar crazy issues involving food. The doctor told me I could have solid (bland) food, but the staff wouldn’t get it for me because the orders were not in, so Beth went to the cafeteria to get food for me.

I think the main idea I want to leave you with is that you need to be proactive and informed when you are in a hospital. You need a friend or a family member there advocating for you. Expect confusion, advocate for what you want strongly, and always ask questions until you get answers that make sense.

I had a follow-up meeting with my surgeon (and I had to work the system to get it) during which the catheter was removed in time for Christmas (LOL). During that meeting he shared the results of the pathology report. (Once removed, the prostate had been sent off for further evaluation.) The final report found that the cancer was not as bad as thought; it was less severe and had not spread outside the prostrate.

All the work I did certainly contributed to the final results, I am sure.

I have thanked all the healers who worked with me. I truly did have a healing team.

Terry

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Dec
05

Coaches’ Intensive Program

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January 26-27, 2013
At the Loews Ventana Canyon resort in Tucson

Three Reasons to Register Now

Reason #1: Eligibility for Terry’s new Intensive Graduate Program and Certification—only those who have attended a Coaches’ Intensive Program can attend this new program, tentatively set to begin in February 2013.

Reason #2: The new Bring a Friend Discount—if you and a friend both register for January’s Intensive, you will each get $400 off the currently listed price. This is the lowest rate available. E-mail Terry’s Client Care Manager at adele@adonai-llc.com for more information about this option.

Reason #3: Transformation—this mid-winter getaway at the Loews Ventana Canyon resort in Tucson can transform your business and your life!

Take advantage of this opportunity to work with Terry in a small group setting where you experience your own breakthroughs while learning how to facilitate breakthroughs for your clients.

  • Would you like to learn WHY you and your clients get stuck and what to do about it… FAST?
  • Would you like a step-by-step system that will help you and your clients change faster and with greater ease?
  • Would you like to receive your training from a recognized Master of transformational change?

There’s also a fourth reason to register now—because the price goes up every month, so the sooner you register, the less it will cost. The current price will go up at noon ET on November 30 (this Friday) and again on January 2. As a newsletter reader you can get a $200 discount off the listed price if you use the code subscribe in the Shopping Cart during checkout.

If you want to catapult your ability to change those troublesome beliefs that are stopping you and your clients in their tracks, then register for this Intensive now!

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Nov
28

Looking for a Mentor… or Ready to Be One?

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Many of you in the coaching world have heard successful coaches talk about their mentor or mentors. The story these coaches tell is of how their mentors have helped them grow or evolve. They strongly suggest they would not be where they are today if it had not been for the input and support of their mentors. It’s hard to listen to a successful businessman without hearing a similar story.

What do mentors do? A mentor’s goal is “to establish, strengthen and align empowering values and beliefs, often through their own examples.”* Most of these successful coaches and business people chose mentors who modeled or represented what they wanted or desired.

It’s fairly common to hear such high-end coaches offer to be mentors themselves. Now what’s interesting is that not everyone who could be a mentor actually turns out to be good at mentoring. Why? Because to be good at mentoring, mentors need to have beliefs in place that support mentoring.

My thinking about mentors and mentoring has been influenced by Robert Dilts. Actually, I think of Robert as one of my mentors. Robert suggests that successful mentors operate from the following beliefs:

  • When people want something and believe in it enough, they will find a way to make it happen.
  • The most important thing I can do is to help people believe in themselves and value what they are doing.
  • At their core, all people are positively intended. Having appropriate values and beliefs is the foundation for being able to express our positive intentions in the most effective and ecological manner.
  • With advice and attention from me, this person will be able to naturally establish empowering beliefs and appropriate values.
  • One of the best ways to advise others is by being an effective role model.

It is hard to separate leadership from mentoring. The leadership style associated with mentoring is that of inspirational leadership. Inspiring others involves motivating and encouraging them to do and be their best. Both mentoring and inspirational leadership emphasize values and empowering beliefs in future possibilities.

You can see that selecting a mentor or serving as a mentor requires you to understand your own beliefs and values. I think you can also see how important it is for potential mentors to be congruent with their own values and beliefs.

I hope this information will encourage you to be careful about selecting your mentors as well as developing your own mentoring abilities, for I believe that mentoring is one of the most important roles you can take on as a successful coach.

* From Coach to Awakener, Robert Dilts, Meta Publications, 2003 (pp. 133-134).

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Oct
24

Destiny Alignment: Powerfully Express Who You Are

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As I mentioned above, it can be difficult to know when you are expressing or fully engaging your true self. I would like to help you connect with and operate from your true self because it will allow you to be more congruent and, as a result, have a greater impact.

You’ve probably heard people say things like “I wasn’t being myself” or “That’s not really who I am” or some other statement that implies there is another self, a false self or an unreal self. What is it about this statement that makes intrinsic sense? I propose it’s the idea that we have a true self that is somehow known to us.

When you start thinking of the idea of your true self, it may be better to think about your true selves, because we actually create several selves. What is useful is recognizing which self serves you in pursuit of your values. It is important to find what is enjoyable, interesting, pleasing, etc. Having a sense of self makes it possible to have a self-concept.

Developing a self-concept that is true to what is important to you is what effectively supports you in achieving your goals.

I have been particularly interested in this theme because it often emerges when I am coaching. Many of my clients have discovered that as children or young people they took on or adopted a self that someone else wanted for them, rather than allowing who they were to truly emerge. Would it surprise you to understand or discover that sometimes people play small so that others around them can be more comfortable and relaxed?

One way to understand the phenomenon of a clear self-concept is to recognize that when you are congruent with who you truly are, you move through the world with a great deal of clarity and power.

I want you to discover your true self and purpose so that you can be doing the kind of work that truly fits you and lets you feel good about yourself. People who don’t think well of themselves usually don’t attempt very much, and if they don’t attempt very much, they won’t accomplish much. So being able to identify who you truly are in different contexts will allow you to congruently take action, letting you be more productive and do things you enjoy more—rather than what you think you should do.

The process of discovering who you truly are can take some effort. I believe it is best done with guidance and support. I suspect, however, that you have already had some clues about being on the right path of discovery. Are there certain activities that just seem right? Are there ones that make your heart sing when you are doing them? Are there some that just feel right to your gut? If so, that is the feedback that you are on the right path. If you have not yet had that experience, then you owe it to yourself to discover your true calling and destiny.

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