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A Tough Lesson Learned
Posted by: | CommentsYesterday I presented a training teleclass on Words That Heal: Language Patterns That Get Clients Unstuck Fast. I had planned carefully for the presentation, making sure that I didn’t get too ambitious or try to give out too much information.
Because the people who called in were willing to be interactive and participate in the training experiences, a good deal of learning took place. Towards the end of the class, I described how to get additional information from specific books and NLP training classes.
I also offered an opportunity to attend my Belief Breakthrough Method™ Coaches’ Intensive Program in Chicago on June 25-26. My wife had helped me create a script for the class, which I followed until the very end, when I lost track of where I was and left out some important information.
How do I know this? Because I listened to the recording. Now I will have to send out e-mails to clarify my offerings and bonus.
If you listen to the audio (click to download Words That Heal recording), you can learn from my mistake. Create a script specifically for your offerings and bonuses. Listen to your recording afterwards and discover what you liked about it and where you can improve.
About an hour after the call, someone called me and invested in the training. So I really encourage you to go for it and stretch yourself, because there is no failure, only feedback.
So what difficult lessons have you learned lately?
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
A Time to Walk and a Time to Nap
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Salka’s message this week is that he likes predictability and order in his life. When things get out of order, he’s not always sure how to respond. A lot of times you can create a sense of safety and predictability if there’s order and routine in your life: food time, play time, bed time, etc. When that routine is interrupted, he and his pack mates get out of sorts.
Know your rhythm and adapt accordingly.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Are You Using the Right Words to Facilitate Quick, Successful Breakthroughs?
Posted by: | CommentsI recently served as the Guest Expert during an interview with Daria Boissonnas, who provides training and guidance for conscious leaders through her Global Institute for Awakening.
Our topic was Enhancing Healing and Consciousness with Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).
I’m happy to tell you that a FREE recording of that interview is now available.
Download the MP3, and you’ll hear live demonstrations about which specific words and questions can heighten natural healing and success for your clients.
Just click this link for access to the interview:
Enhancing Healing and Consciousness with Neuro-Linguistic Programming
While listening, you’ll also hear about a foundational component of NLP: discovering how people represent their reality through pictures, self-talk and sensations.
Understanding a client’s “map of the world” allows you to make interventions tailored to that client and to get rapid breakthroughs.
Do you understand your clients’ maps?
Are you using the right words to facilitate quick, successful breakthroughs for them?
If not, what could—and should—you be doing differently?
Try taking advantage of the information in this recording, and let me know how it works for you!
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Are You a Leader that Others Want to Follow?
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How do you become a leader that others want to follow? This is the topic of this month’s download. Learning how to nurture your inner leader is particularly useful if you know you need to step into leadership roles.
Most of you are aware of the importance of leadership. It’s a continuous topic on the news and TV news shows. Why? Because we understand the importance of having strong, compelling leaders. What is not as clear is what constitutes a “leader” or how exactly you can become a leader that others want to follow.
Becoming the Leader that Others Want to Follow will take you through a process of learning how to tap into your leadership abilities and more effectively utilize them. You have been leading yourself for a long time. What this means is that you cannot not lead.
This month’s recording will give you an opportunity to explore and, where appropriate, improve your natural leadership. You may be questioning whether or not you want to lead, but since you are still reading this post, you are interested in learning. When you learn about your unique leadership style, you can then apply it to learning to lead and inspire others.
Imagine that you could step forward in a powerful, congruent way so that you can share your passion or message with others so they will be inspired.
Are you ready to lead?
For more information about this and similar recordings, check out my Belief Breakthrough Series™ 2011 Download of the Month Club.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
What Will YOU Do When You Reach Your Goals?
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What a weekend! I just returned from Las Vegas, where I celebrated James Malinchak’s appearance on ABC’s Secret Millionaire.
Malinchak hosted a party that began with a webcast of the program Sunday afternoon and continued with the full television broadcast that night. He limited his guest list to 100 people, excluding celebrities. One notable attendee was Robin Leach, former host of Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous. James had arranged for him to serve as the MC.
What I saw at James’s party was a wonderful example of how somebody can marry money with a high-level mission. For those who have been able to create this kind of income, it speaks to their ability to have a tremendous impact at a high level. It’s also representative of what you can do when you reach your goals.
I attended this event with my good friend and fellow coach, Larry LaPrade. It was an incredible networking opportunity, and we both made the most of it.
Speaking of networking, I’m attending the Infusionsoft User Conference (2011 InfusionCon) in Phoenix this week, where James Malinchak and Brain Tracy are both delivering keynote addresses. I’m working in the area as well, spending some valuable face-to-face time with a few of my Phoenix clients. If you’re nearby and want to hook up, give me a call (520.237.4435) to see if we can work something out.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Do You Need to Address an Internal Conflict?
Posted by: | CommentsRecently in doing work with coaches who are deciding where they want to be in their business or in their earnings, I have come across similar struggles they are having precisely because they are pushing themselves.
When you as a coach move to higher levels of success, you often run into questions and challenges that force you to consider what is really important to you about your work.
Sometimes these questions and inner struggles occur because coaches aren’t certain they want to continue modeling themselves after the successful mentors they have been following up to this point. They wonder if
they should do things differently.
In order to advance to another level and be congruent, coaches must determine what’s right for them. Until you resolve these issues, you cannot reach and maintain a higher level of success.
| It’s not about your mentors or role models being right or wrong—it’s about what’s right for you. |
The sticky part of this process is determining which of the following reasons is the cause of your dilemma: a limiting belief about higher-level success or a conflict of values—a concern about doing something that’s not in harmony with who you are. Either way, you must be willing to take on the struggle in order to move beyond it.
Today, I’m going to focus on the latter issue: honoring your own values.
There are a myriad of extremely successful, high-level coaches in our field with an equally wide-ranging number of approaches. Some can be controversial. Some may have enviable results but use techniques you’d rather
not employ. Some you may have emulated until just recently, but now you question whether their methods are right for you.
Keep in mind that these can be matters of perception. They may involve situations that are not strictly black and white. What some successful coaches may consider to be appropriate and necessary business decisions might also—thought perfectly legal—go against your values.
Whether your concerns are related to rates, style, presentation, content, value or something else entirely, you need to address them and determine what works for you. Integrity is self-defined. Remember, it’s not about your mentors or role models being right or wrong—it’s about what’s right for you.
Again, determine if your challenge is about congruence and values or about beliefs and stepping up in a different way. For some it may be both. Once you identify what is bothering you, start to address the issues one at a time.
The learning point comes when you step up or attempt to act at a higher level, for there can be a reaction. You may experience a “parts split” that will show up as an internal struggle such as, “Part of me wants this, and another part of me wants that.” Treat this as an important opportunity to discover what is really important to you.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
What Matters Most?
Posted by: | CommentsAll of us in Tucson have been affected by the recent shooting. One of my colleagues really captured a way to reflect on this tragedy in the following article, so I’m passing it along for your consideration. — Terry
What Matters Most?
By Kay Prince
Of course, the recent shooting in Tucson offers an opportunity to reconsider, to evaluate what’s happening in our world and to consider what actions can create positive change locally, regionally and nationally at many other levels.
This event and the events that have followed also create another possibility – a very personal one. A chance to consider the tragedy as a catalyst to contemplating how you are living your life. It’s times like these that people experience a wakeup call. They stop. They take a look at themselves and their lives.
Respectfully, I offer some questions for your contemplation and review. I invite you to take time, to consider, to examine your life through these nine questions.
1. What’s most important to you in living your life?
2. How can you make more of a positive impact with your family, your close circle of friends, your workplace?
3. What are the values and guiding principles that you hold most dear, that drive you, that you wish to pass on to your children and those closest to you?
4. Do you have a sense of meaning in your life? Do you know what your life purpose is?
5. Is the statement “life is short” more of a reality to you now? Is it time to look at the rest of your life and be more aware of how you want to live it?
6. Are you living your life to the fullest? Are there certain talents, passions, personal causes that have been brushed aside and are longing to be expressed?
7. What will bring you true, sustainable satisfaction, in your relationships, your work, your life?
8. Is it time for you to explore options to make a greater contribution and impact?
9. What or who matters most to you in your life? Are you making that a top priority?
Have the urge to sell all your earthly belongings and join the Peace Corps? That’s not what this exercise is all about. Every single day in your life, in your family, in your work, you have a choice to live in a way that is true to yourself, true to who you are and what you stand for.
If each of us lived with these questions in mind at all times, think of what the difference would be.
Note: Kay Prince can be reached at kay@kprinceco.com.
Who Are Your Mentors?
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I just finished recording a segment for my Download of the Month Club. This audio features an exercise on finding your inner mentors, so as I recorded it I thought about some of the important mentors in my life
The one who immediately came to mind is my Chow Chow, Waiki. She is very old and infirm but still very much able to enjoy the moment. My walk with her this morning was bittersweet because I know she only has a few more walks in her. Her back legs suffer intermittent paralysis so she has been falling often, each time patiently waiting for me to pick her up so she can go on exploring.
How is she a mentor? Because from the moment she came into our life she demonstrated immediate trust and devotion. She was a street dog who had been abandoned and was surviving on scraps. It turns out that she had laid claim to a barbecue place close to us, eating crickets and other insects she found in the lighted areas nearby.
My wife Beth and our now-deceased Golden Retriever Weiser were on a walk, and Waiki followed them home, limping badly. She was a mess. At the best of times Chows require lots of grooming, so imagine one who hadn’t been touched for several months. In addition to fleas and mange, she was suffering from “milk fever” and had a liter of puppies.
The minute Waiki arrived she decided she was ours, and from that time on we bonded in a profound, trusting way. I have subsequently learned that Chows tend to form tight, protective bonds with either their master or family. She did that and then some. Her name, which came to us quickly, is a Quechua (Inca) word meaning “esteemed companion.“ She has been that and much more.
Waiki is only expected to live for a few more days. While preparing ourselves for the inevitable, she recovered from the paralysis in one of her rear legs, allowing her to walk again. So on our walk today, I allowed myself to fully feel. Tears came to me, and I sobbed uncontrollably. I realized once again that as my mentor, Waiki made it okay to face painful truths.
I have been recovering from a heart attack that, on an emotional level, I believe was caused by my unwillingness to deeply feel and experience painful truths. The heart attack was essentially caused by a blockage, and my new willingness to feel deeply has resulted in an opening of my heart. After determining the areas in which I have not been loyal or trusting, I have committed to doing so for the people and ideas deserving my loyalty and trust. Perhaps most important, I have committed to trusting myself. This means that I am choosing who to commit to and how to be more trusting.
So who are your mentors, and what are you being called to question or learn from this year?
Please let me know. I am interested in hearing from you.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. His monthly e-zine, Belief Change Alchemy, offers coaches, entrepreneurs and leaders strategies for abolishing limiting beliefs that interfere with success, ultimately replacing them with life-changing, empowering beliefs. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want NOW. http://www.terryhickey.com
