Because I’m interested in increasing proficiency in coaching, I am frequently asked about the importance of increasing your skills. There are a few things you should consider when trying to determine if it’s time to increase your coaching skills.
For starters, if you believe that your job is to contribute and make a difference in the world, then how can you best do that? Some of you have chosen to make a difference through coaching, others by growing businesses that make a difference, and yet others because you have a deep knowledge that it’s important. Are you fully prepared to do what it takes to make a difference through the path you have chosen?
My recent work in discovering people’s why has alerted me to the importance not only of why you do what you do, but how you do what you do.
There’s no doubt that one of the ways you can make a profound difference is by helping others be their best, and one of the ways to do your best is to be willing to achieve mastery in your work. Does this describe you?
If you consider yourself to be very good at something, you are good because you committed to learning and practicing. Otherwise you would just be dabbling at it. But are you truly dedicated to achieving mastery in coaching—learning it at such depth that it’s second nature to you?
If you put your hand on your heart and say, “I have mastered coaching,” does that statement resonate deeply, or is there a part of you that questions it?
Are there any areas of your coaching skill set that are keeping you from mastery?
Because I’ve been actively pursuing this question for the last two years, I’ve discovered that mastery starts with a decision to improve your skills. Once you decide to improve, the next important decision is to determine the best way to do it.
Those of you who know me know that I’m passionate about soccer. I’m currently the second oldest person in my league, and I celebrated my 67th birthday by playing in the last game of the summer league. I told with my teammates that it was my birthday. One of them approached me later and said, “I hope I’m even playing when I’m your age. You are continuously trying to improve your game. You’re not the best player on the field, but you have the most willingness to continue learning.”
That captured for me what mastery is all about.
Are you willing to master your game?
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If you subscribe to my newsletter, you may have noticed that Judy Ben-Asher was featured in this section of the April issue earlier this year. The focus of the film she described then has changed slightly because of the death of her mother. Judy had been doing a lot of work with alkaline diets and had witnessed first-hand how such diets can help those with cancer. Her original focus was to talk about how specific nutrition can turn around disease. In Judy’s own words, here’s what has changed:
“Reality set in, and I found it so difficult trying to get my mom to actually take my advice! I realized it’s never really about the food; it’s about what we think! I had a Holy SHIFT! Now the film is about getting rid of blocks and barriers that stop us from great health and happiness. I want to do this for myself too and heal my own health and hopefully, reduce my weight drastically in the process. I believe we need to heal from the inside out on all levels for optimal health.”
Judy is interviewing several experts and compiling a video of the work that I do with her. That work is pretty profound, partly because she expects it to be and is, therefore, predisposed for it to be. I invite you to read her update below.
Dearest friends and family,
As most of you know, I am currently filming a documentary called Life 180. The film started out about alkalinity to treat or heal cancer. When my mom got sick I went to work trying to figure out if there was a way I could help. As some of you know, with cancer you just feel so helpless! When it’s cancer, we can only hang on and ride it out.
I tried to learn as much as humanly possible about health, longevity and happiness as I could find. I first learned about alkalinity to treat cancer and my mind was blown. How can taking acid and sugar out of a diet reduce or cure cancer? I wanted to learn more so I went back to school for integrative nutrition. Then, my cousin Dori Crofts, was diagnosed with late stage breast cancer with spread to her lymph. She wasn’t given many options. I shared with her what I found; she did the work utilizing alkalinity and is now cancer free! Watching her become healthy, I felt like I must share this information with the world! It must be easier to get answers in crisis!
After becoming a licensed Integrative Health Coach, I noticed that all my coaching friends were sharing a problem: it’s so hard to get people to take our advice. I showed my mom data, she seemed excited and followed the diet while I was with her, but as soon as I went home, she fell off or just did it in spurts. Why wouldn’t she want to add this in—after all it could save her life?
I was also the heaviest I have ever been in my life, and I knew exactly what to eat! Why do we stand in our own way, and what can we do to heal that, shift, and change it permanently? That is now what our film is about, and I am now part of that journey.
We are whole beings, and nutrition is just one piece of the puzzle. Some of us block ourselves subconsciously from busting through our money goals and/or health goals. What I’m learning is that it all comes from the same place, and that it IS possible to shift and move through it.
In the film Life 180, we will go on a journey, discovering how to break through blocks we have subconsciously placed in our own way. In the film we will show how to identify these barriers or blocks, who can help, and how. I have seen many documentaries about each of these subjects but none that show the complete process.
Life 180 will be a tool bag of “how to’s” designed for every lifestyle, depending on how deep you want to go. I will be testing several theories as we go and telling you first person what has worked for me.
We will have the film’s Facebook page and website up shortly, where you can see film footage, dailies, stills, my vlogs (video blogs) about it all, and my journey back to health as well as a place where you can comment and read other people’s comments. The film website will also include a database for how to find and work with the people in the film, so you too can have every breakthrough!
I have already interviewed several people for the film, including David Wolfe and my sweet momma, whom I loved very much. I have a second interview with David Wolfe slated for September; Dr. Richard Camona, past Surgeon General of the United States; the life changers Stacey Morgenstern and Carey Peters of Holistic MBA in October; the life changer Terry Hickey; the forward-thinking, Mel Zuckerman, founder of Canyon Ranch; cutting-edge scientists to explain it all; and many more huge names to come.
It’s all been so amazing! The love and donations I have received have made it all possible. I will be doing an Indiegogo financing campaign shortly as well. For now, I am using PayPal because the film will receive more of the money you donate, so I’m starting here.
What I need from you is help with donations from anyone you know who would like to help, or if you would like to donate personally or would be willing to forward this email along. I also need helpgetting 2 cameras, completing my next several interviews, getting the Indiegogo campaign started, finishing the website, and getting the film underway! All donations will go towards empowering the world with knowledge, and the ripple effect of your contribution is immeasurable.
I am forever grateful for all the love and support. When you donate, no matter if it’s $5 or $50,000, you will be thanked in the film. For the larger financier, you will get return on investment, and we can speak privately about that. I can tell you that these types of films are gaining momentum, and the return is quite substantial.
What would it be like to bust through your financial ceiling, heal and lose that weight forever?
What would it be like for you to contribute to helping other people learn this too and be a part of the film?
I am so grateful for your time and consideration. I feel like I must do this, and to get it done right, I need support. So, thank you again!
Donate by clicking on this text or by pasting the following address into your browser:
https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=R74TX8KTT3CBQ
My deepest gratitude,
Judy Ben-Asher, Director & Producer of Life 180, the Film
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This was the opening line for the WHY Coach Certification Training program I attended in Denver earlier this month. After just three days, I could see that the WHY company can deliver—they have found a way to fundamentally change the world for the better.
The WHY Movement Begins: Terry with Gary
Sanchez at WHY’s first Certification Training
(from WHY® Facebook)
Ridgely Goldsboro and Gary Sanchez led our WHY program, the beginning of the WHY Movement. Ridgely and Gary help people discover their true purpose–their why–the reason they do what they do. As each training participant identified his or her own why, the responses ranged from “Wow!” to tears of joy.
There are nine whys described in this program. The most common why is to contribute to a greater cause—to make a difference or add value to the world. My mission is to help create a world to which others love to belong. I want to have an impact on leaders. Through the WHY program, I can go into corporate America to help create value-driven companies. Indeed, participating in WHY means I’ll be doing a lot of work with corporate America.
WHY coaches go into companies, identify the CEO’s purpose and create a way for that company to represent that purpose. Coaches get the main why from the company’s leaders to create teams and get people talking in a way that reduces friction and creates passion. As part of our training we witnessed a one-day corporate WHY workshop; when it concluded, the business owner said it was the best money he had ever invested in training.
My why is to make sense out of things, especially the complex or complicated. A lot of times when I’m working with people, I’m focused on figuring out what’s going on in order to help them recognize what’s going on. My how is often to discover and suggest a better way. (“Find a better way” people are always looking for ways to improve things.)
What is your why?
Note: The “Whyification” Process is explained in this book: The Why Engine: Inspire Your Team. Inspire Your Customer. Inspire Your Company. by Ridgely Goldsboro with Gary Sanchez, David Kirwin, Mike Sparkman and Herbert Lee. You can learn more by contacting me at 520.237.4435 or Terry@TerryHickey.com or by visiting this website: The WHY Engine.
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I’ve really been emphasizing to the coaches I train that they should consider doing work in a small group setting. Here’s why:
Small Group Benefits for Participants (Clients)
- When you build a group community, it creates a natural healing environment.
- When you are observing someone else change, it makes it easier for you to change.
- You can often see your problem reflected in someone else’s experience, letting you learn in different ways.
- Just as with mastermind groups, small groups have a larger “mind” than the individuals within them, and that group mind supports healing and creativity.
Small Group Benefits for You as a Coach
- If you’re stuck, you can draw upon the wisdom of the group, benefitting from everything in the list above.
- Community is easier to build as a result of being in a group.
- You can maximize time and help more people.
Are there potential downsides to doing groups? Well, yes…
- If you don’t know much about group dynamics and the best ways to form a group community, your groups might end up becoming problematic.
- You must develop the ability to track individual interactions while being aware of what’s happening in the larger group.
- You must be able to maintain a resourceful state no matter what is happening in the group.
- It takes a lot of learning and practice to master group coaching.
Learning group dynamics and group leadership skills takes effort and commitment. Be sure you learn from someone who has mastered how to do this.
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I’ve been having lots of conversations lately with clients around the idea of how you achieve success, and one person specifically asked me, “How are you successful?”
Rather than answering right away, I chose to think about it for a while. While the question was still rolling around in my mind, I attended a conference on investing. The instructor, Phil Town, was a Green Beret during the Vietnam War. He didn’t set out to be an investor, but once he decided to become one, he couldn’t fail to bring his real-life experience into his chosen profession. He challenged us to think about our level of willingness to really learn and to think about what committing to really learning means.
Phil told a poignant story about his special forces training during which the challenge was to keep going long after you thought you couldn’t. His conclusion was that success is the result of getting up and continuing on. In addition to taking the first step, you have to keep taking more steps and get up after you’ve been knocked down. This reminded me of the work I’ve done with professional athletes where the real challenge isn’t so much always being in the flow as it is to bounce back from mistakes.
More than once I’ve told clients that being an entrepreneur is not for the faint of heart, and I think that what I’ve heard from Phil reiterates that idea. I know that more than once I considered going back to a J-O-B, especially when I was struggling with fear—fear that I wouldn’t be able to make enough money, fear that my efforts would not achieve success. I really believe that what ultimately made me successful was the willingness to continue getting up.
I’m laughing at myself because I want to inject an NLP presupposition now, such as “If what you’re doing doesn’t work, do something different,” and one of my personal favorites, “There is no failure, only feedback.” Ultimately, however, my success—and your success—depends on a willingness to continue getting up and to take yet another step forward.
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What ultimately motivates you?
Motivation occurs on different levels. Let me explain…
We all have a drive to survive. We share this with all living organisms. Maslow spoke to this in his famous theory of the hierarchy of needs. He described how humans organize themselves to meet the basic needs first—food and shelter—and when that is realized, we can begin to focus on self-actualization, intellectual and spiritual development.
Most of us work with people who have realized their basic needs, but occasionally we have experienced or worked with people struggling to meet their basic needs. If you can’t make your house payment, it’s hard to focus on self-development. I’m going to assume that you have resolved your basic needs and have time to investigate your dreams or higher-level motivations. Your dreams speak to a deeper level truth, a higher calling. When we as coaches or change agents began to help people realize their dreams, we are doing a different kind of work.
Dreams almost always connect to our deeper mission or purpose. Having a dream implies you are connecting with something really important and meaningful. I would suggest that an inability or unwillingness to follow our dreams leads to a deep soul or heart dissatisfaction. Of course following your dreams allows your soul and heart to feel a deep level of satisfaction.
What actually causes and inspires dreams? I propose that they come from our mission or our greater “why.” Your why is ultimately what creates your passion and drive. Follow your why, and you will lead a more congruent, passionate and fulfilled life. Failure to follow your why or dreams can lead to deep dissatisfaction and even depression. At a minimum it can lead to a vague sense of boredom.
We have many ways to talk about following your dreams. We use the words fulfillment, destiny, the hero’s journey, following your bliss, etc. We also have many people in our lives who are dream stealers, people who tell us “That’s not practical,” or “You won’t be able to make a living doing that.” Why do they do they do this? Because someone stole their dreams.
To follow your dream often requires a leap of faith or requires you to challenge your internal critic, the parts of you who whisper “That’s not practical,” “You can’t make money doing that,” “No one will pay for that,” or similar messages.
So what is a person to do? Well, if they’re smart, they’ll invest in a coach or mentor who can help them follow their dream. And again, that dream often stems from or is influenced by their mission or why.
Do you know your mission, your greater purpose, your why?
It’s important to understand your why. What is it that you believe in? Can you articulate your mission, your purpose, your dream? The clearer I get about my dream and what I believe in, the more it resonates with others. They can more readily identify if it’s a good fit for them and if it’s meant to be.
In writing this I realize that my work really answers my mission—my why—and I know that when people work with me, they often speak about how my passionate support of them has made it possible for them to realize their dreams. No wonder I love what I do!
So if you do not yet know your mission or dream or why, make the commitment to do so. You don’t want to be at the end of your life describing to your loved ones how you failed to go for what was really important, do you?
It takes courage and perseverance and faith to follow your dreams, or you can make a therapist rich talking about your regret of not having gone for what was really important. So I invite you to go for your dream. Take the leap of faith.
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You’ve often heard the word mastery thrown around, but what does it actually mean to achieve mastery?
Mastery certainly has to be understood as a choice to follow your passions. Someone will not achieve mastery in any subject or endeavor without a high degree of passion for the subject or path. I like the analogy of the path of mastery. That idea suggests a conscious choice to move in a certain direction.
In the recent 3-day Coach Certification Training wrap up, we spent a great deal of time on the subject of coaching mastery. What we reflected on is that there are five primary keys to mastery: instruction, practice, surrender, intentionality and the edge. These are from Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment by George Leonard.
The 5 Keys to Mastery
1. Instruction speaks to the importance of learning from someone who is a master. It makes sense, doesn’t it, that you would want to learn from the best? But how do you determine that? What kind of outcomes do they get? Who instructed them? How did they learn their skill or craft? Do they know what makes them a master?
This doesn’t mean that the only form of instruction is in person; however, it will be necessary at some point. Books and videos can help you develop interests and appreciation for something, but you will not achieve mastery that way.
Another point is that not everyone who is a master at a skill is also a good teacher. Teaching itself requires a specific skill set, along with humility.
2. Practice is best illustrated by an old joke: a couple is lost in New York looking for Carnegie Hall. They stop and ask a local elder, “How do you get to Carnegie Hall?” He answers, “Practice.”
According to George Leonard, practice is the path upon which you travel, just that. It becomes part of the way you live.
As I’ve said before, most masters have put in a minimum of 10,000 hours of practice. This, of course, is an uncomfortable premise in a culture that often advertises opportunities to gain expertise in a week, a month or three or four months. This is simply not possible.
It almost goes without saying that good practice leads to good games or outcomes. There’s an old martial arts saying that goes like this: “The master is the one who stays on the mat 5 minutes longer every day than anybody else.” This is what Michael Jordan was famous for.
3. Surrender means surrendering to your teacher and to the demands of your discipline. You have to be willing to be the fool. Any new learning will, by necessity, be less than stellar. It’s the ability to adopt the learner’s mind that makes the difference. Remember the NLP presupposition that there’s no failure, only feedback.
If you ever meet someone who’s a master at piano, ask them how many endless hours they spent learning scales. Cultures where mastery is appreciated have lots of stories about the importance of being willing to do lots of seemingly endless work before you can even enter the path of mastery.
4. Intentionality: In my work with the Peruvian mystic Don Américo Yabar, he talks about the importance of setting an intent. This is a clear and unambiguous decision to be on the path. When you commit in this way to something, then you are able to marshal the willpower and stamina to stick with it. This also implies that you can imagine the outcome—the reason for doing what you’re doing. That kind of focus and willingness organizes the mind and the musculature to do what is necessary.
Almost everyone knows the importance of visualizing in sports. Jack Nicklaus used to describe his approach to golf by saying that he “never hit a shot, not even in practice, without having a very sharp, in-focus picture of it in my head.” He is also quoted as saying that a good golf shot is “10% swing, 40% setup, and 50% visualization.” Other professional athletes say similar things. They call it the mental game. This is the part where your beliefs really play a significant role.
5. The Edge: What is “the edge”? It is your willingness to go beyond—to go where others have not yet gone, to be an explorer. It’s where you push yourself to do things that others have not yet done.
There are lots of stories that resonate with many us of about people who push themselves in ways that appear to be foolish. Perhaps they are, but to the person doing it, it’s an expression of their willingness to go further than others go.
So think about what you want. Are you willing to put this kind of effort into what you say you want to master?
What we discovered at the Certification wrap up is that this is not a path for the faint of heart. To really chose a path of mastery is a commitment. That’s why it helps to have companions on the path; otherwise it can be very lonely. It’s why I make entrance into my certification program difficult. I want people who are committed to the path.
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As an NLP Practitioner, I understand and appreciate how valuable NLP can be. If you are one of my clients or regular readers, you have heard some of my NLP recommendations and may have even experienced the benefits of NLP yourself. It is with this in mind that I encourage you to read the forwarded message below from Frank Bourke, Ph.D., Richard Gray, Ph.D., and the NLP Research and Recognition Project. They have announced a new website that has been built to give NLP an accurate, unbiased representation that may be further developed by the NLP community. The article below I think represents what can happen when there is a pre-existing belief that something either works or does not work.
I was actually discussing this Wiki issue with a class that I just completed with a group of coaches this past weekend. I myself have tried to insert changes into the Wiki article and was curious about the lack of curiosity regarding the ongoing response to the NLP article.
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Content from Message Sent by Frank Bourke, Richard Gray
and the NLP Research and Recognition Project
The NLP Research and Recognition Project (R and R) and a group of NLP volunteers, in association with Tim Hallbom, Shelle Rose Charvet and other NLP leaders, has taken note of the tremendous influence exercised by Wikipedia and its negative impact on NLP. Working together they have developed an alternate, scientifically sound Wiki site that the NLP Community’s support can bring into regular use.
We would like your help in the following ways:
First, if you have a website, please ask your IT person or web manager to eliminate any link to the Wikipedia article and replace it with a link to www.nlpwiki.org.
Second, we would ask that you spread the word to your clients, practitioners and associates that the new wiki exists and ask them to visit it, link to it, add to it and increase its Google statistics by visiting it often.
Third, if you are a writer or have relevant materials that would add to the Wiki, please send them on to our NLP editors using the submission guidelines on the front page of the Wiki.
Current biased editors have used the Wikipedia rules to maintain control of the NLP site, which labels the field as a fraudulent pseudo-science. Any attempts to submit positive NLP materials are immediately dismissed. In our own case the bad press and spurious research promulgated by Wikipedia has cost the R and R Project millions of dollars in lost research funding, and at least one opportunity to create an NLP Department in an internationally recognized American University.
In response to this, the R and R team and a group of NLP volunteers, under the guidance of Tim Hallbom, Shelle Rose Charvet and other NLP leaders have established an alternative NLP Wiki at www.nlpwiki.org. The Wiki formatted site provides an unbiased look at NLP that links to independent validation of NLP and parallel findings in mainline psychology. The site has no advertising, promotes no schools or individuals and, despite a stellar editing team, all of its articles are presented as anonymous contributions by the community.
On some level, NLP is at a crossroads. While good scientific studies validating NLP’s clinical claims do need to be done, a fair reading of existing research, contrary to the NLP skeptics’ presentation on the official Wikipedia site, warrants the time and money that the growing NLP research movement is now expending. The new NLP Wiki provides good information and makes it easily accessible. Help us to get it known and used.
Please use this address to RSVP your actions, especially how many NLP practitioners you have contacted: info@researchandrecognition.org. Also let us know if you have questions, need help or would like to be more involved.
Thanks for your help in this and being a part of the NLP community.
Copyright © 2013 NLP Research Recognition Project, All rights reserved.
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If so, don’t miss my Belief Breakthrough Method™ Coaches’ Intensive Program in Tucson, Arizona the weekend of April 26-27, 2014!
I work with coaches who want to achieve mastery, and it’s clear they recognize that my training provides a chance to move up to the next level. They understand that it will improve their skills and capabilities. This program is ideal for coaches desiring their own personal transformation work who want to learn how to systematically do this work with others. If you appreciate and thrive in a small-group format, there’s no better opportunity.
Now my program includes Coach Certification Training, and this 2-day Coaches’ Intensive is the doorway into that certification program. If you want to develop mastery in your coaching, and you want the individual attention that makes that happen, this is the program for you. The price goes up every month so don’t wait…
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A recent article from Steve Andreas, one of my favorite NLP thinkers, offered some useful examples about the presupposition that people have all the resources they need, but they may not be applying them in the right context. The great hypnotherapist Milton Erickson described these resources as “what you know, but you don’t know that you know.”
For instance a manager might have wonderful people skills and treat his employees with care and respect, but he might end up struggling to treat his spouse well. When reminded of his abilities, he could be encouraged to treat his wife as though she were one of his valued employees.
Steve encourages those he trains to discover the areas where people are already successful and have them apply that skill set to the troubling context.
I have found that this often will work—sometimes in surprising ways—and it can be reinforced with suggestions like, “I never know how people can discover new ways to apply old skills. I’ll be curious to see what happens for you.” This presupposes that they will discover something, prompting them to take positive action using resources they already have.
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I like to collect stories about belief change experiences. If you have any interesting ones, please share them below so I can comment on them in subsequent articles or posts.
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