Archive for Random Musings
Do You Know Where You Stand?
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If you’ve been following my blog, you met Salka last week this month. (If not, find out more about him here.)
Salka is always acutely aware of his environment and how he fits into it. As you probably know, dogs like to “leave their mark,” designating their territory wherever they go. They will even go out of their way to do this on top of marks left by other canines. I have seen people execute similar—albeit more “civilized”—behaviors in corporate settings, trying to establish dominance and vie for position as the alpha male or female.
Knowing where you stand in relationship to others is important not just for dogs but also for humans. Do you know where you stand in your most important business and personal relationships?
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Have You Met Salka?
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I’d like to take a moment to introduce Salka, our Alaskan Malamute. In Quechua his name means “wild energy” as opposed to domesticated energy. In traditional Andean culture, the role of a healer is to work with wild energy: passion, creative energy, uncensored energy and life force. He’s named for that. I look for that in people, places and things, and he’s a reminder of that.
As someone who lives in the moment and knows how to immediately take advantage of fun opportunities, Salka is a great role model. He will be making regular appearances on this blog to share his reflections on living a positive life. He also plans to star in video clips in which he will comment on aspects of the coaching business and important life issues.
Salka is meditating in his office in this photo.
Who Are You Taking for Granted?
Posted by: | CommentsI just came from a lunch with a friend and was struck with the need to comment on what happened.
My friend had invited me to lunch because she is on my mailing list and had just received my newsletter. She considers receipt of my newsletter—and all others—as verification of a relationship. For her reading my newsletter is equivalent to having me talk to her. She believes that relationships are so important that you must work to keep them in place and functioning. Because of the powerful meaning she sees in relationships, she wasn’t comfortable continuing to receive my newsletter until we addressed an “elephant in the room” of sorts. I am happy to say that our talk went well.
I came away from lunch with a new awareness of two important issues. First, if you want to keep relationships working in your life, you must take the time to evaluate how they are doing. Second, if a relationship needs your attention and you need to right a wrong or have an important talk, then do it.
If business relationships are worth forming in the first place, then they are worthy of the same kind of consideration. What can you say about the relationships that you have formed in your business? Do you take them for granted, or do you do the work necessary to keep them going?
Whatever the answer, I’d love to hear about it. Please share your comments and feedback below.
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Are You Getting the Input You Need?
Posted by: | CommentsI recently returned from my Mastermind group with James Malinchak. This was my second Mastermind with him, and it made me consider what factors make these groups effective. Capitalizing on the power of the group, they tap into a collective mind.
What is most interesting is how much of my learning came from listening to the feedback that was given to other members. I think that being in the observer role makes it possible to learn because you can be less involved personally and consider things from a different viewpoint.
The other benefit I immediately noticed was that ideas could be examined critically. A number of participants heard that their ideas were lacking in some way or possibly based on false or shaky assumptions. Because the feedback is from someone more distant, somehow it made it easier to listen. They were able to change direction.
I also learned that “because I think it’s a good idea” is not a business strategy. Sound strategies and decisions in business need more than an idea. “It’s a good idea” requires evaluation or testing. This Mastermind group provided some of that experience.
At a minimum, learn to run your ideas by objective sources that you trust. Assemble your own group or participate in others to increase your effectiveness.
Who is your best sounding board?
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Welcome!
Posted by: | Comments“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.” – J. Pierpont Morgan
Not only have I decided not to stay where I am, but I have consciously decided to move ahead with the implementation of my new website. Our team has worked through most of the bugs, and as you can see, the new site is up and running. It’s been an interesting experience coordinating various tasks, and it has required input from all of us.
My new website will allow you to easily access the latest belief change products, information and programs, designed to help you and your clients make more money and powerfully live your purpose in business and in life. Check it out, and let me know what you think.
About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://www.terryhickey.com
Who Are Your Mentors?
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I just finished recording a segment for my Download of the Month Club. This audio features an exercise on finding your inner mentors, so as I recorded it I thought about some of the important mentors in my life
The one who immediately came to mind is my Chow Chow, Waiki. She is very old and infirm but still very much able to enjoy the moment. My walk with her this morning was bittersweet because I know she only has a few more walks in her. Her back legs suffer intermittent paralysis so she has been falling often, each time patiently waiting for me to pick her up so she can go on exploring.
How is she a mentor? Because from the moment she came into our life she demonstrated immediate trust and devotion. She was a street dog who had been abandoned and was surviving on scraps. It turns out that she had laid claim to a barbecue place close to us, eating crickets and other insects she found in the lighted areas nearby.
My wife Beth and our now-deceased Golden Retriever Weiser were on a walk, and Waiki followed them home, limping badly. She was a mess. At the best of times Chows require lots of grooming, so imagine one who hadn’t been touched for several months. In addition to fleas and mange, she was suffering from “milk fever” and had a liter of puppies.
The minute Waiki arrived she decided she was ours, and from that time on we bonded in a profound, trusting way. I have subsequently learned that Chows tend to form tight, protective bonds with either their master or family. She did that and then some. Her name, which came to us quickly, is a Quechua (Inca) word meaning “esteemed companion.“ She has been that and much more.
Waiki is only expected to live for a few more days. While preparing ourselves for the inevitable, she recovered from the paralysis in one of her rear legs, allowing her to walk again. So on our walk today, I allowed myself to fully feel. Tears came to me, and I sobbed uncontrollably. I realized once again that as my mentor, Waiki made it okay to face painful truths.
I have been recovering from a heart attack that, on an emotional level, I believe was caused by my unwillingness to deeply feel and experience painful truths. The heart attack was essentially caused by a blockage, and my new willingness to feel deeply has resulted in an opening of my heart. After determining the areas in which I have not been loyal or trusting, I have committed to doing so for the people and ideas deserving my loyalty and trust. Perhaps most important, I have committed to trusting myself. This means that I am choosing who to commit to and how to be more trusting.
So who are your mentors, and what are you being called to question or learn from this year?
Please let me know. I am interested in hearing from you.
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Does Your Environment Support Your Goals?
Posted by: | CommentsTo wrap up 2010, my wife and I made some changes in our office because it wasn’t supporting our purpose and mission. In order to work more effectively and efficiently, we cleared out a lot of clutter and moved several things around.
Getting rid of the clutter made a big difference. It was having a negative impact, and we have both felt a sense of relief from removing it. We also painted one room to create a color scheme that’s in harmony with a more positive environment. All of these changes have made a real difference for both of us.
Does your office environment really support what you do? What about your home environment? If not, what are you going to do about it?
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Creativity and Results
Posted by: | CommentsI recently returned from James Malinchak’s Millionaire Speakers Bootcamp in Los Angeles.
One of My clients, Carey Peters, who said I could comment on her, won the coveted Marketer Of The Year Award at the bootcamp. The quality of the competition was very high so why did she win? I can think of three main reasons why she won.
First, her beliefs about her abilities, about the worth of the effort and her willingness to risk loosing made it possible for her to compete wholeheartedly. Second she was very creative in her approach. She used her acting skills to good avail and modeled last years winner Jonathan Sprinkles. Lastly she took massive action.
What I have observed is that so many very creative people with useful beliefs about them selves flounder when it come to taking action. For creative people too much creativity can be their greatest downfall because they continue to generate ideas. Failure to take consistent action on good ideas means the ideas aren’t implemented. Certain actions of course will be more effective and learning or modeling others who have been successful helps, but in the end action steps are what pays off.
Carey has been a consistent example of someone who takes action and her results reflect that.
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World Cup Beliefs
Posted by: | CommentsIf you have been following the World Cup you may have heard on more than one occasion announcers talk about player’s and team’s Beliefs Its apparent that at this level beliefs separate the teams and players. Why is this?
