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Are You Using the Right Words to Facilitate Quick, Successful Breakthroughs?
Posted by: | CommentsI recently served as the Guest Expert during an interview with Daria Boissonnas, who provides training and guidance for conscious leaders through her Global Institute for Awakening.
Our topic was Enhancing Healing and Consciousness with Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).
I’m happy to tell you that a FREE recording of that interview is now available.
Download the MP3, and you’ll hear live demonstrations about which specific words and questions can heighten natural healing and success for your clients.
Just click this link for access to the interview:
Enhancing Healing and Consciousness with Neuro-Linguistic Programming
While listening, you’ll also hear about a foundational component of NLP: discovering how people represent their reality through pictures, self-talk and sensations.
Understanding a client’s “map of the world” allows you to make interventions tailored to that client and to get rapid breakthroughs.
Do you understand your clients’ maps?
Are you using the right words to facilitate quick, successful breakthroughs for them?
If not, what could—and should—you be doing differently?
Try taking advantage of the information in this recording, and let me know how it works for you!
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Reading Metaphors and Body Language
Posted by: | CommentsListen to metaphors and related “body language.” Body metaphors and sayings sometimes give us the information we need to solve a problem.
When you hear yourself or a client say, “I can’t stomach this” or “That makes me sick” or use similar phrases with references linking stress to physical attributes, stop to consider what that statement might really mean. Asking the right questions in response to such thoughts or comments may provide the insight necessary to address some life-changing issues.
When you hear someone say, “I’m fed up with this” or “I’m shouldering too many things” or “My heart just isn’t in it,” try asking the following questions.
- In response to, “I’m fed up” or “I can’t stomach this,” ask “What have you been taking in that’s not right for you?” or “Have you taken on too much?”
- When you hear, “I’m shouldering too much,” ask “How do you decide what you need to pick up?” or “How do you decide what you need to let go of?”
- If someone says, “My heart isn’t in it,” ask “What would have to happen or change so that you could engage your heart?”
Take advantage of this tip, and you’ll soon find that these types of questions can lead to the discussions necessary to resolve a variety of issues. Metaphorical language is often a communication from the unconscious mind, so learn to listen to it.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
What Will YOU Do When You Reach Your Goals?
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What a weekend! I just returned from Las Vegas, where I celebrated James Malinchak’s appearance on ABC’s Secret Millionaire.
Malinchak hosted a party that began with a webcast of the program Sunday afternoon and continued with the full television broadcast that night. He limited his guest list to 100 people, excluding celebrities. One notable attendee was Robin Leach, former host of Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous. James had arranged for him to serve as the MC.
What I saw at James’s party was a wonderful example of how somebody can marry money with a high-level mission. For those who have been able to create this kind of income, it speaks to their ability to have a tremendous impact at a high level. It’s also representative of what you can do when you reach your goals.
I attended this event with my good friend and fellow coach, Larry LaPrade. It was an incredible networking opportunity, and we both made the most of it.
Speaking of networking, I’m attending the Infusionsoft User Conference (2011 InfusionCon) in Phoenix this week, where James Malinchak and Brain Tracy are both delivering keynote addresses. I’m working in the area as well, spending some valuable face-to-face time with a few of my Phoenix clients. If you’re nearby and want to hook up, give me a call (520.237.4435) to see if we can work something out.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Do You Need to Address an Internal Conflict?
Posted by: | CommentsRecently in doing work with coaches who are deciding where they want to be in their business or in their earnings, I have come across similar struggles they are having precisely because they are pushing themselves.
When you as a coach move to higher levels of success, you often run into questions and challenges that force you to consider what is really important to you about your work.
Sometimes these questions and inner struggles occur because coaches aren’t certain they want to continue modeling themselves after the successful mentors they have been following up to this point. They wonder if
they should do things differently.
In order to advance to another level and be congruent, coaches must determine what’s right for them. Until you resolve these issues, you cannot reach and maintain a higher level of success.
| It’s not about your mentors or role models being right or wrong—it’s about what’s right for you. |
The sticky part of this process is determining which of the following reasons is the cause of your dilemma: a limiting belief about higher-level success or a conflict of values—a concern about doing something that’s not in harmony with who you are. Either way, you must be willing to take on the struggle in order to move beyond it.
Today, I’m going to focus on the latter issue: honoring your own values.
There are a myriad of extremely successful, high-level coaches in our field with an equally wide-ranging number of approaches. Some can be controversial. Some may have enviable results but use techniques you’d rather
not employ. Some you may have emulated until just recently, but now you question whether their methods are right for you.
Keep in mind that these can be matters of perception. They may involve situations that are not strictly black and white. What some successful coaches may consider to be appropriate and necessary business decisions might also—thought perfectly legal—go against your values.
Whether your concerns are related to rates, style, presentation, content, value or something else entirely, you need to address them and determine what works for you. Integrity is self-defined. Remember, it’s not about your mentors or role models being right or wrong—it’s about what’s right for you.
Again, determine if your challenge is about congruence and values or about beliefs and stepping up in a different way. For some it may be both. Once you identify what is bothering you, start to address the issues one at a time.
The learning point comes when you step up or attempt to act at a higher level, for there can be a reaction. You may experience a “parts split” that will show up as an internal struggle such as, “Part of me wants this, and another part of me wants that.” Treat this as an important opportunity to discover what is really important to you.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
What Do You Want?
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In my last post I described how the process of visualizing what you want can be a powerful motivator. Indeed, effective change is easier when you have a clear sense of what you want. When you can clearly state exactly what you desire, then your unconscious mind is more likely to “get it.”
In order to facilitate this, you should to spend a lot of time visualizing what you want, feeling and experiencing it in your mind’s eye. Doing this allows your unconscious mind to organize your thoughts and behavior in ways that will help you get what you want.
When you do exercises like these, it’s important to focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. Only visualize representations of what you truly would like.
When I utilize hypnosis with clients, I often use this process first. I find that by helping them clearly describe their goals and desires prior to hypnosis, their unconscious minds will be more receptive to suggestion while under hypnosis. They will then be more open to the reaffirming suggestions I make during hypnosis.
For example, if someone says that he or she wants to be engaged in learning on a more regular basis, then that person should talk about wanting to learn. In hypnosis, you can then suggest ways to make learning possible and to assist the client in being open to learning, saying things like, “When you leave here, you may discover that you learn more easily than before. You’ll realize how important learning is to you, and you may discover even more ways of learning.”
In this particular example, what’s important about the process is that learning has taken on new meaning. In the grander scheme, this exercise is about framing your mindset. You have to determine what you consider to be important so your mind will know how to go about the process of supporting that goal in just the right way.
Note: One of my goals is to travel on all of the major rivers of the world, and I’ve been on ten so far. The waterfall pictured was one of the many spectacular views I enjoyed while traveling along the Manú River in Peru. Have you visualized your travel goals?
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Need a Motivation Booster?
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If you want to create a more powerful motivation, try the following exercise.
Picture what you want in front of you. Mentally describe what you want as if you are seeing the actual event. Make sure the image is a large, compelling, juicy picture with lots of color. It should be close to you. Move it around, focusing on different details until it optimizes your motivation. When you have formed a vision of what you really want, you should feel it in your body.
All right. Now step into the image.
You can almost always improve your motivation with this exercise. To maximize the experience, make sure that the image you visualize is large and compelling, including details and color.
This exercise helped a coach in California who was having trouble with motivation. It turns out that she only saw her vision in the future. By moving it closer, she felt compelled to take action. With her increased motivation, she found that she could accomplish a week’s worth of work in just a few days!
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Want to Try an Easy Technique for Getting Things Done Quickly?
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Here’s an interesting tip I picked up in a recent message from Simpleology. It involves one simple thing you can do right now to get 2 hours worth of work done in just 30 minutes. Try it, and see what happens.
Ready? All right. Here’s what you do…
Pick a task.
That’s the first part. The second is to…
Set a deadline—give yourself only 30 minutes to get the task done.
Once you do this, your brain will take over and figure out how to get the job done quickly.
That’s it. It’s that simple. Really.
This has been referred to as the “time compression phenomenon.” Give it a try, and see if it works for you. Just keep in mind that you have to take the deadline seriously. If you don’t focus your attention on the task at hand and give it all you’ve got, this won’t work.
As always, let me know if this tip makes a difference for you.
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Does Perfectionism Lead to Success, or Does Perfectionism Slow You Down?
Posted by: | Comments“It’s more important to be out there than to be perfect.” – James Malinchak
As I mentioned in my last post, one of the coaches I know values doing things well but is not hampered by having to be “perfect.” I’ve seen people paralyzed by perfectionism. If you need to make decisions and take action, this almost always stops you, particularly if your perfect comparative is with really high-end, absolutely-no-mistake products. How long do you think it took them to become perfect?
A better example of an approach that will allow you to take action is James Malinchak’s “get stuff done fast” method in which you allow yourself to correct things later, making sure you arrange for feedback. He believes it’s more important to be out there than to be perfect. He’s learned to take the feedback he gets and tailor what he’s doing to fit with what he’s learned from people like Bill Glazer.
Is perfectionism standing in the way of your success?
Are your beliefs about being perfect holding you back?
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://www.terryhickey.com
