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Does Perfectionism Lead to Success, or Does Perfectionism Slow You Down?
Posted by: | Comments“It’s more important to be out there than to be perfect.” – James Malinchak
As I mentioned in my last post, one of the coaches I know values doing things well but is not hampered by having to be “perfect.” I’ve seen people paralyzed by perfectionism. If you need to make decisions and take action, this almost always stops you, particularly if your perfect comparative is with really high-end, absolutely-no-mistake products. How long do you think it took them to become perfect?
A better example of an approach that will allow you to take action is James Malinchak’s “get stuff done fast” method in which you allow yourself to correct things later, making sure you arrange for feedback. He believes it’s more important to be out there than to be perfect. He’s learned to take the feedback he gets and tailor what he’s doing to fit with what he’s learned from people like Bill Glazer.
Is perfectionism standing in the way of your success?
Are your beliefs about being perfect holding you back?
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://www.terryhickey.com
Are Your Beliefs Limiting Your Income?
Posted by: | CommentsI recently completed the project Healing Your Money Beliefs, which is my current download of the month. During the process I discovered how common longstanding beliefs about money interfere with current success.
I do a lot of work with healing limiting beliefs, and the majority of those beliefs are about money. They tend to fall into one of the following areas:
- Feeling that you do not deserve to really earn large amounts of money;
- Confusion about asking for money when it seems to interfere with a larger purpose, like helping people; and
- Beliefs about asking for what you’re worth—not being willing to promote yourself because that’s not what “good people” do.
As you can guess, most of these beliefs were formed when we were very young, and they’ve been operating in the background, affecting our behavior.
If you’re not making the kind of money that you intellectually know you’re capable of, it’s worth considering an evaluation of potentially limiting beliefs that are keeping you from moving forward.
Would you like to learn more? I’m a specialist in this area, and here are four easy ways to find out more.
- Check out my Belief Breakthrough Series™ 2011 Download of the Month Club.
- Subscribe to my FREE newsletter, Belief Change Alchemy, which often includes articles on this topic.
- Read some of my other posts on this topic:
If this post has been helpful or you have any questions, please share your comments below.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://www.terryhickey.com
Who Are You Taking for Granted?
Posted by: | CommentsI just came from a lunch with a friend and was struck with the need to comment on what happened.
My friend had invited me to lunch because she is on my mailing list and had just received my newsletter. She considers receipt of my newsletter—and all others—as verification of a relationship. For her reading my newsletter is equivalent to having me talk to her. She believes that relationships are so important that you must work to keep them in place and functioning. Because of the powerful meaning she sees in relationships, she wasn’t comfortable continuing to receive my newsletter until we addressed an “elephant in the room” of sorts. I am happy to say that our talk went well.
I came away from lunch with a new awareness of two important issues. First, if you want to keep relationships working in your life, you must take the time to evaluate how they are doing. Second, if a relationship needs your attention and you need to right a wrong or have an important talk, then do it.
If business relationships are worth forming in the first place, then they are worthy of the same kind of consideration. What can you say about the relationships that you have formed in your business? Do you take them for granted, or do you do the work necessary to keep them going?
Whatever the answer, I’d love to hear about it. Please share your comments and feedback below.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://www.terryhickey.com
Are You Getting the Input You Need?
Posted by: | CommentsI recently returned from my Mastermind group with James Malinchak. This was my second Mastermind with him, and it made me consider what factors make these groups effective. Capitalizing on the power of the group, they tap into a collective mind.
What is most interesting is how much of my learning came from listening to the feedback that was given to other members. I think that being in the observer role makes it possible to learn because you can be less involved personally and consider things from a different viewpoint.
The other benefit I immediately noticed was that ideas could be examined critically. A number of participants heard that their ideas were lacking in some way or possibly based on false or shaky assumptions. Because the feedback is from someone more distant, somehow it made it easier to listen. They were able to change direction.
I also learned that “because I think it’s a good idea” is not a business strategy. Sound strategies and decisions in business need more than an idea. “It’s a good idea” requires evaluation or testing. This Mastermind group provided some of that experience.
At a minimum, learn to run your ideas by objective sources that you trust. Assemble your own group or participate in others to increase your effectiveness.
Who is your best sounding board?
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://www.terryhickey.com
Welcome!
Posted by: | Comments“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.” – J. Pierpont Morgan
Not only have I decided not to stay where I am, but I have consciously decided to move ahead with the implementation of my new website. Our team has worked through most of the bugs, and as you can see, the new site is up and running. It’s been an interesting experience coordinating various tasks, and it has required input from all of us.
My new website will allow you to easily access the latest belief change products, information and programs, designed to help you and your clients make more money and powerfully live your purpose in business and in life. Check it out, and let me know what you think.
About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://www.terryhickey.com
What Matters Most?
Posted by: | CommentsAll of us in Tucson have been affected by the recent shooting. One of my colleagues really captured a way to reflect on this tragedy in the following article, so I’m passing it along for your consideration. — Terry
What Matters Most?
By Kay Prince
Of course, the recent shooting in Tucson offers an opportunity to reconsider, to evaluate what’s happening in our world and to consider what actions can create positive change locally, regionally and nationally at many other levels.
This event and the events that have followed also create another possibility – a very personal one. A chance to consider the tragedy as a catalyst to contemplating how you are living your life. It’s times like these that people experience a wakeup call. They stop. They take a look at themselves and their lives.
Respectfully, I offer some questions for your contemplation and review. I invite you to take time, to consider, to examine your life through these nine questions.
1. What’s most important to you in living your life?
2. How can you make more of a positive impact with your family, your close circle of friends, your workplace?
3. What are the values and guiding principles that you hold most dear, that drive you, that you wish to pass on to your children and those closest to you?
4. Do you have a sense of meaning in your life? Do you know what your life purpose is?
5. Is the statement “life is short” more of a reality to you now? Is it time to look at the rest of your life and be more aware of how you want to live it?
6. Are you living your life to the fullest? Are there certain talents, passions, personal causes that have been brushed aside and are longing to be expressed?
7. What will bring you true, sustainable satisfaction, in your relationships, your work, your life?
8. Is it time for you to explore options to make a greater contribution and impact?
9. What or who matters most to you in your life? Are you making that a top priority?
Have the urge to sell all your earthly belongings and join the Peace Corps? That’s not what this exercise is all about. Every single day in your life, in your family, in your work, you have a choice to live in a way that is true to yourself, true to who you are and what you stand for.
If each of us lived with these questions in mind at all times, think of what the difference would be.
Note: Kay Prince can be reached at kay@kprinceco.com.
Who Are Your Mentors?
Posted by: | Comments[Written 1/6/11]
I just finished recording a segment for my Download of the Month Club. This audio features an exercise on finding your inner mentors, so as I recorded it I thought about some of the important mentors in my life
The one who immediately came to mind is my Chow Chow, Waiki. She is very old and infirm but still very much able to enjoy the moment. My walk with her this morning was bittersweet because I know she only has a few more walks in her. Her back legs suffer intermittent paralysis so she has been falling often, each time patiently waiting for me to pick her up so she can go on exploring.
How is she a mentor? Because from the moment she came into our life she demonstrated immediate trust and devotion. She was a street dog who had been abandoned and was surviving on scraps. It turns out that she had laid claim to a barbecue place close to us, eating crickets and other insects she found in the lighted areas nearby.
My wife Beth and our now-deceased Golden Retriever Weiser were on a walk, and Waiki followed them home, limping badly. She was a mess. At the best of times Chows require lots of grooming, so imagine one who hadn’t been touched for several months. In addition to fleas and mange, she was suffering from “milk fever” and had a liter of puppies.
The minute Waiki arrived she decided she was ours, and from that time on we bonded in a profound, trusting way. I have subsequently learned that Chows tend to form tight, protective bonds with either their master or family. She did that and then some. Her name, which came to us quickly, is a Quechua (Inca) word meaning “esteemed companion.“ She has been that and much more.
Waiki is only expected to live for a few more days. While preparing ourselves for the inevitable, she recovered from the paralysis in one of her rear legs, allowing her to walk again. So on our walk today, I allowed myself to fully feel. Tears came to me, and I sobbed uncontrollably. I realized once again that as my mentor, Waiki made it okay to face painful truths.
I have been recovering from a heart attack that, on an emotional level, I believe was caused by my unwillingness to deeply feel and experience painful truths. The heart attack was essentially caused by a blockage, and my new willingness to feel deeply has resulted in an opening of my heart. After determining the areas in which I have not been loyal or trusting, I have committed to doing so for the people and ideas deserving my loyalty and trust. Perhaps most important, I have committed to trusting myself. This means that I am choosing who to commit to and how to be more trusting.
So who are your mentors, and what are you being called to question or learn from this year?
Please let me know. I am interested in hearing from you.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. His monthly e-zine, Belief Change Alchemy, offers coaches, entrepreneurs and leaders strategies for abolishing limiting beliefs that interfere with success, ultimately replacing them with life-changing, empowering beliefs. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want NOW. http://www.terryhickey.com
Are Your Beliefs Slowing You Down?
Posted by: | CommentsIf you’ve read my last few blogs, you may be wondering what energy drains have to do with my specialty, beliefs. Let me explain…
Your ever-lengthening to-do lists and unfinished projects represent more than just behavioral issues. There are beliefs in place that have been maintaining your behaviors. These beliefs include the criteria you use to determine what you are going to do—and what you aren’t. Evaluating these criteria will help you prioritize and get things done.
For example, if you are sorting through a stack of papers on your desk and come across a graduation announcement you kept from months ago, do your beliefs support a better-late-than-never philosophy, or do you believe it’s too late to do anything about it now? Either way, you need to make a choice: do something today or let it go forever. Knowing your beliefs about such items can help you process them much more quickly in the future.
Other beliefs that affect your ability to work through your to-do lists and finish projects are those related to delegating. Are you able to give up control and let your helpers do things their way? I’ve been known to say, “You can ask me to do something or tell me how to do it, but you don’t get both.” Hire those who know what they’re doing, and only interfere if their way of doing it affects your business.
If you are ready to eliminate the energy drainers in your life, begin by attending to one or two things, and enjoy the sense of accomplishment that comes with each. Ultimately, these small things can add up to major problems—or major victories. Take care of small things in a consistent way and prevent big problems. People who are really successful have these habits in place.
Are you ready to put your beliefs to work for you and achieve some major victories this year?
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. His monthly e-zine, Belief Change Alchemy, offers coaches, entrepreneurs and leaders strategies for abolishing limiting beliefs that interfere with success, ultimately replacing them with life-changing, empowering beliefs. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want NOW. http://www.terryhickey.com/
Start the New Year with a Shorter To-Do List
Posted by: | CommentsIf you read my last blog, then you’ve probably been thinking about the energy drains in your life. Now that you’ve identified them, what are you going to do about them?
To get your year off to a good start, you need to tackle your energy drains NOW.
Starting with the “immediate” stuff right away, take care of those things that are niggling at your awareness. Consciously be aware of each so you can take care of it. If it’s a commitment to someone else, honor it right away. If it’s a commitment to yourself, honor it right away or renegotiate with the awareness that now you are only going to commit to those things you can and will do. This leads to the next step.
Think of something that you’ve completed or accomplished. How does that feel? Much better, right? As you deal with your drainers, finishing some tasks and letting go of others, you should experience a sense of relief with each accomplishment. Recognize the sense of completion and relief that comes with removing each energy drain.
Now, examine your beliefs that 1) everything has to be done and 2) that it has to be done perfectly. In order to work through existing energy drains and prevent new ones, you will have to let go of some things. Recognize what you’ve been taking on that you many not actually have to do. You can let go of some tasks because they didn’t really have to be done to begin with. Isn’t it a relief to start the new year with less on your to-do list!
Finally, do what it takes to prevent additional energy drains.
Make sure that you don’t continue to contribute to the problem. The more commitments you have hanging out there that you can’t get done, the worse it’s going to get. Keep in mind the old business saying: “Success is as much about knowing what to say ‘no’ to as what to say ‘yes’ to.” Know your priorities, and use them to determine when to say “yes” and when to say “no.” Consider every request for a commitment carefully, even seemingly trivial ones, because a commitment means that you are striking a contract with yourself or others for future action.
Once you successfully eliminate some of the energy drains in your life, let me know. I’d love to hear about it!
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. His monthly e-zine, Belief Change Alchemy, offers coaches, entrepreneurs and leaders strategies for abolishing limiting beliefs that interfere with success, ultimately replacing them with life-changing, empowering beliefs. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want NOW. http://www.terryhickey.com/
