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Do You Need to Address an Internal Conflict?
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When you as a coach move to higher levels of success, you often run into questions and challenges that force you to consider what is really important to you about your work.
Sometimes these questions and inner struggles occur because coaches aren’t certain they want to continue modeling themselves after the successful mentors they have been following up to this point. They wonder if
they should do things differently.
In order to advance to another level and be congruent, coaches must determine what’s right for them. Until you resolve these issues, you cannot reach and maintain a higher level of success.
| It’s not about your mentors or role models being right or wrong—it’s about what’s right for you. |
The sticky part of this process is determining which of the following reasons is the cause of your dilemma: a limiting belief about higher-level success or a conflict of values—a concern about doing something that’s not in harmony with who you are. Either way, you must be willing to take on the struggle in order to move beyond it.
Today, I’m going to focus on the latter issue: honoring your own values.
There are a myriad of extremely successful, high-level coaches in our field with an equally wide-ranging number of approaches. Some can be controversial. Some may have enviable results but use techniques you’d rather
not employ. Some you may have emulated until just recently, but now you question whether their methods are right for you.
Keep in mind that these can be matters of perception. They may involve situations that are not strictly black and white. What some successful coaches may consider to be appropriate and necessary business decisions might also—thought perfectly legal—go against your values.
Whether your concerns are related to rates, style, presentation, content, value or something else entirely, you need to address them and determine what works for you. Integrity is self-defined. Remember, it’s not about your mentors or role models being right or wrong—it’s about what’s right for you.
Again, determine if your challenge is about congruence and values or about beliefs and stepping up in a different way. For some it may be both. Once you identify what is bothering you, start to address the issues one at a time.
The learning point comes when you step up or attempt to act at a higher level, for there can be a reaction. You may experience a “parts split” that will show up as an internal struggle such as, “Part of me wants this, and another part of me wants that.” Treat this as an important opportunity to discover what is really important to you.
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Do You Know Where You Stand?
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If you’ve been following my blog, you met Salka last week this month. (If not, find out more about him here.)
Salka is always acutely aware of his environment and how he fits into it. As you probably know, dogs like to “leave their mark,” designating their territory wherever they go. They will even go out of their way to do this on top of marks left by other canines. I have seen people execute similar—albeit more “civilized”—behaviors in corporate settings, trying to establish dominance and vie for position as the alpha male or female.
Knowing where you stand in relationship to others is important not just for dogs but also for humans. Do you know where you stand in your most important business and personal relationships?
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About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Want to Relieve Stress and Improve Your Mood?
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I recently completed Stress-Busting Mood Lifter, which is my current download of the month. While completing this audio I realized that it is useful to consider stress as a given—a necessary fact of life. What becomes important is how you decide to manage it.
With that in mind, I challenge you to think about the following.
- What are your strategies for managing the stress in your life?
- What would happen if you decided to actively create down time and didn’t give into the “I don’t have enough time” trap?
- Do you recognize that creating peace goes deeper than the circumstances around you?
So what do you do to manage the stress in your life? Do you use a proactive approach? How do you think of stress? Please share your comments, for I am curious about how others deal with the stress in their lives.
For more information about Stress-Busting Mood Lifter and similar recordings, check out my Belief Breakthrough Series™ 2011 Download of the Month Club.
P.S. This sunset photo was taken from my back yard, a great place for me to create peace and manage my stress.
P.P.S. Do you want to reprint this article? Please do. Just be sure that it remains intact and includes the following bio.
About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
What Do You Want?
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In my last post I described how the process of visualizing what you want can be a powerful motivator. Indeed, effective change is easier when you have a clear sense of what you want. When you can clearly state exactly what you desire, then your unconscious mind is more likely to “get it.”
In order to facilitate this, you should to spend a lot of time visualizing what you want, feeling and experiencing it in your mind’s eye. Doing this allows your unconscious mind to organize your thoughts and behavior in ways that will help you get what you want.
When you do exercises like these, it’s important to focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. Only visualize representations of what you truly would like.
When I utilize hypnosis with clients, I often use this process first. I find that by helping them clearly describe their goals and desires prior to hypnosis, their unconscious minds will be more receptive to suggestion while under hypnosis. They will then be more open to the reaffirming suggestions I make during hypnosis.
For example, if someone says that he or she wants to be engaged in learning on a more regular basis, then that person should talk about wanting to learn. In hypnosis, you can then suggest ways to make learning possible and to assist the client in being open to learning, saying things like, “When you leave here, you may discover that you learn more easily than before. You’ll realize how important learning is to you, and you may discover even more ways of learning.”
In this particular example, what’s important about the process is that learning has taken on new meaning. In the grander scheme, this exercise is about framing your mindset. You have to determine what you consider to be important so your mind will know how to go about the process of supporting that goal in just the right way.
Note: One of my goals is to travel on all of the major rivers of the world, and I’ve been on ten so far. The waterfall pictured was one of the many spectacular views I enjoyed while traveling along the Manú River in Peru. Have you visualized your travel goals?
P.S. Do you want to reprint this article? Please do. Just be sure that it remains intact and includes the following bio.
About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Have You Met Salka?
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I’d like to take a moment to introduce Salka, our Alaskan Malamute. In Quechua his name means “wild energy” as opposed to domesticated energy. In traditional Andean culture, the role of a healer is to work with wild energy: passion, creative energy, uncensored energy and life force. He’s named for that. I look for that in people, places and things, and he’s a reminder of that.
As someone who lives in the moment and knows how to immediately take advantage of fun opportunities, Salka is a great role model. He will be making regular appearances on this blog to share his reflections on living a positive life. He also plans to star in video clips in which he will comment on aspects of the coaching business and important life issues.
Salka is meditating in his office in this photo.
Need a Motivation Booster?
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If you want to create a more powerful motivation, try the following exercise.
Picture what you want in front of you. Mentally describe what you want as if you are seeing the actual event. Make sure the image is a large, compelling, juicy picture with lots of color. It should be close to you. Move it around, focusing on different details until it optimizes your motivation. When you have formed a vision of what you really want, you should feel it in your body.
All right. Now step into the image.
You can almost always improve your motivation with this exercise. To maximize the experience, make sure that the image you visualize is large and compelling, including details and color.
This exercise helped a coach in California who was having trouble with motivation. It turns out that she only saw her vision in the future. By moving it closer, she felt compelled to take action. With her increased motivation, she found that she could accomplish a week’s worth of work in just a few days!
P.S. Do you want to reprint this article? Please do; just be sure that it remains intact and includes the following bio.
About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://terryhickey.com/
Are You Living Your Dreams?
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Thierry Henry photo courtesy Wikipedia
While Beth and I were at a professional soccer game last Saturday night featuring the New York Red Bulls and Sporting Kansas City, we noticed that the Red Bulls’ featured player (star) was Thierry Henry. We then realized that it was exactly 10 years ago to the day that Beth and I saw him play in London when he was new to Arsenal Soccer.
We got to meet Thierry back then because we were working for Tony Adams, who was the captain of the team at that time. We had been hired to set up an addiction clinic for professional athletes, which also included a peak performance aspect. As part of working for Tony, we went to several Arsenal games and sat in his box. Afterwards we were invited to the post-game party in the club. It was there that we met Thierry.
Working in London for Tony Adams was a dream job, not only because I love soccer—and still play—but also because I had the chance to work for one of the world’s best soccer stars.
I truly believe that experience was the result of setting two different goals: one to work internationally and another to work with professional athletes. I just didn’t know that I would get to do both at once.
What important dreams are you setting in place? Do you have the beliefs to support those dreams? Search your memory and see if you have had an experience like mine—one that was the result of setting a big goal and then going for it.
Tune In for Money Belief Breakthroughs
Posted by: | CommentsLast week I was a guest on Diane Helbig’s Accelerate Your Business Growth Radio Show. Diane is a good interviewer, and she made it easy to describe what I do, quickly getting to the heart of my work. Speaking on her show was fun, and it also turned out to be useful; a listener contacted me the next day and asked to receive coaching.
You can listen to a recording of our discussion by clicking on the following link: Money and Health Belief Breakthroughs. Tune in, and let me know what you think!
Want to Try an Easy Technique for Getting Things Done Quickly?
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Here’s an interesting tip I picked up in a recent message from Simpleology. It involves one simple thing you can do right now to get 2 hours worth of work done in just 30 minutes. Try it, and see what happens.
Ready? All right. Here’s what you do…
Pick a task.
That’s the first part. The second is to…
Set a deadline—give yourself only 30 minutes to get the task done.
Once you do this, your brain will take over and figure out how to get the job done quickly.
That’s it. It’s that simple. Really.
This has been referred to as the “time compression phenomenon.” Give it a try, and see if it works for you. Just keep in mind that you have to take the deadline seriously. If you don’t focus your attention on the task at hand and give it all you’ve got, this won’t work.
As always, let me know if this tip makes a difference for you.
P.S. Do you want to reprint this article? Please do, just be sure that it remains intact and includes the following bio.
About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW. http://www.terryhickey.com
by Jenna Avery
(posted on her blog, February 15, 2011)
Terry Hickey is a talented NLP practitioner who specializes in belief change work with high end coaches, entrepreneurs, visionaries, leaders, and athletes. Many of the visionaries he works with are in the film industry, including actors, directors, producers, and dialog coaches. He also works with financial visionaries and professional athletes. I interviewed Terry last year as part of my Creative Visionaries Interview Series to see what he can teach us about why some visionaries succeed and others do not.
Visionary Guiding Principles
Here are some of the brilliant pieces of wisdom I gleaned from my conversation with Terry (you can listen to the full interview below):
1. Visionaries have a higher purpose that is the underpinning of the vision they create. They also have a sense of mission — a joy and passion for what they do. They don’t see it as a struggle, but rather as a joy and a privilege, to create what they are here to create.
2. Visionaries face the same sorts of challenges and opportunities the rest of us do, but they see them as opportunities. In other words, don’t think of a lack of success as failure, think of it as feedback. For example, try on this thought, “I haven’t yet employed the right strategies.” Ask, “How is this an opportunity? What’s the learning?”
3. Successful visionaries have a mentor or coach to turn to for help reframing or thinking about things differently. Even Bill Gates and Walt Disney have had mentors. Choose mentors that are as competent as or more competent than you are — don’t be afraid of competition. Choose to learn from people who know more than you do.
4. As a visionary, your role is to create such a powerful vision that others want to create it with you. Terry notes, “Leaders have followers, managers have conscripts.”
5. Visionaries hold what they are doing as so important that they simply can’t NOT do it. They are driven by something larger than themselves. They always go back to their dream — even when challenges come up that keep them awake at night and even when they might lose people they love over it — it’s so powerful they always come back to it.
6. A quality that sets visionaries apart is clarity. They know what they are doing and why they are doing it.
7. Visionaries are so committed that they are willing to get through any stuckness that may come up. They know they must manage things like writer’s block or athelete’s slumps so it doesn’t become their overriding experience.
8. Successful visionaries recognize their own limitations and bring someone on board to help fill in the gaps. Warren Buffet, Oprah, Bill Gates all have in common that they have brought people on board to help them with their problem areas.
9. Visionaries must learn the distinctions between each part of the process of bringing an idea to fruition in order to be successful. This includes creative phase (brainstorming), the evaluative phase (feasibility), and the project management phase (procedural and systematic). Walt Disney used three different rooms for each of these processes — each had its own time and place.
Books Terry mentioned when speaking with Jenna:
• Magic In Practice
• The Speed of Trust
• From Coach to Awakener
• Changing Belief Systems with NLP
• Beliefs: Pathways to Health & Well-Being
• The Strategies of Genius
Note: You can learn more about Jenna Avery by visiting her website at www.JennaAvery.com.
About Terry: Terry Hickey, M.S., is a Certified NLP Professional Coach, Business Trainer and Consultant, a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the co-owner of NLP Advantage Group. Originator of the Belief Breakthrough Method™, Terry specializes in teaching coaches and entrepreneurs how to rapidly resolve limiting beliefs about wealth and success. His tips and strategies can help you launch yourself into the future you want… NOW.
